To miss having my own place?

[Ella1980]

Long story short, I've been renting for five years a small two-bed after a horrendous divorce. Place is by no means ideal but it's the first house I have lived in that's ever felt like it's really my home. Up to me where I have things, what I buy to furnish it (I'm retro quirky, not to everyone's taste!) etc. Was there as a lone parent for 3.5 years.

A few years ago my partner (now fiance) moved in. He came from renting a room in a house share so really didn't have much stuff, bless him. We added an extra few bits of furniture and life was good; he respected that I was here first with my boys (half of the time), he was happy to fit in.

Now we've just rented a three-bed together and to me it feels like he's taken over. He's deciding where everything goes and it's got the point where I don't feel like I can make choices. Anything I try to do he complains.

I could be over-reacting but ex-husband was controlling (abusively so) and I'm again feeling my mental health start to deteriorate. I'm just going more and more back into my shell and that scares me.

Any advice would be most welcome.

Are you surprised to see this side of him? Is he over zealous as it's been a while since he could have a say in his living arrangements?

Do talk to him. It sounds horrrible for you. Try and explain how you are feeling. If your relationship is going to progress, these are the kind of things that you need to be able to understand about each other .

I hope he listens to you and just hadn't realised what he was doing. I hope.

As this has only started since you moved to a new place together, perhaps he feels like he wants to make a place his own a bit too, so there's a bit of a clash, and a big shift in things for you to get used to. If you are otherwise happy together, I would give it a while yet and try to find some kind of compromise.