AIBU not to tell my mum I’m pregnant yet?

[ZaraBanana]

I love my mum to bits but as soon as I tell her anything it’s public knowledge in our family and with her friends. Even when asked not to share info, she does - e.g. she told me my brother and SIL had got engaged when they had asked her not to so they could tell me in person.

I’m about 4 weeks pregnant and not really ready for everyone to know but I am seeing my dad and brother this weekend (my parents are divorced). I know they will keep it quiet if asked and I’d like to tell them both in person. But I also know my mum would be so hurt to be the last to know so I am feeling a bit guilty about that approach and wondering if I should tell everyone together at about 12 weeks.

So WIBU to tell my dad and brother now and ask them to keep it quiet, and tell mum after my first scan?

Personally I wouldn't mention it.

When I was expecting ds, dh told his db and dsil under strict instructions to keep it to themselves as we had previously had a number of miscarriages.

Sil told her sil (sil2) and then at Dn birthday party dh arrived alone with dd and sil2 shouted from the other side of the room 'where is chilli? Is she still in bed with morning sickness?'

Dh spent the whole party fending off questions from all the other guests. Half the town knew and I hadn't even told my family

Luckily ds turned out to be sticky but I am so sorry we ever told them.