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To ask what you should know but don't

154 replies

Donotunderstandmyhouse · 20/04/2019 19:07

I have a thread (embarrassingly) atm about the the fact that I have no clue about my own boiler and heating system. Please could I ask you to make me feel slightly less inept as a parent to be and an adult by asking what you do not or did not know that you should ? I'm talking things like one of my friends knew nothing about council tax when we first moved out of our parents homes 🙈

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pastaparadise · 21/04/2019 09:21

There's loads of things i dont know, but some of the things i really should know but dont

  • more about where food comes from. Ds asked me where oats come from and I'm not sure. Likewise lentils. Not sure what spices look like in raw form eg which are roots, seeds, berries etc. wouldnt recognise the difference between oats, barley, wheat, flax etc.
  • which trees are which, beyond basics like oak, beech, horse chesnut and birch. Lived in the uk 40 years and still not worked it out. Likewise flowers. Cant forage beyond blackberries which seems a bit shameful. Maybe that can be my resolution this year!
TK421 · 21/04/2019 09:24

@brizzlemint - regarding tides, you’re generally correct apart from one aspect: the reason behind two high tides and two low tides. The reason that, in the UK, we have two high tides and two low tides in every tidal cycle (which is approx 25 hours long) is due to the size of the Atlantic Ocean not because of the two bulges. Pacific coastal areas have generally only one high tide and one low tide per cycle because the Pacific is a much larger body of water. The sun also affects the tides. This is why we have Spring tides (large tidal range) and Neap tides (low tidal range). The whole subject of tidal harmonics is very complex.

The80sweregreat · 21/04/2019 09:47

Pensions and money and maths.
I can do our own household finances ok but anything involving percentage rates, isas etc etc baffle me. Numbers are not my thing.

peanut2017 · 21/04/2019 20:05

@Rumbletum2 glad it's not just me Smilecan cause a lot of anxiety. If I stay in a hotel I really have to concentrate on how to get to the room and back. Also crap st remembering numbers.

If I park in a car park which is numbered I normally take a photo of it. Same with the room number on a hotel room, I take a note if it as I will forget 🙈

brizzlemint · 21/04/2019 20:07

@TK421 thanks, good to know Smile

3dogs2cats · 21/04/2019 20:18

Curtains. I find the hooks and measuring mystifying.and padlocks.Showers. folding fitted sheets. Threading shoe laces. Rugby. Etiquette for sliproads, is there something in the markings that tells you if the lane remains or tapers off? How full beam and windscreen wipers work in my car(it is automatic, but sometimes I should manually override)
That art of punctuality. Is there a formula ?.

BattenburgIsland · 21/04/2019 20:39

The order of the alphabet
Times tables
Loads of spellings
Long division
Pensions... no idea what any of thats about
Ditto other financial stuff I dont have a clue. I've never even had a credit card. I just have a basic bank account and always have, no overdraft or anything. Never owed money. My husband owns a house which I suppose I also own through the marriage but my names not on the mortgage.

I didnt know you had to use hot water for washing dishes until I was 22... nor did I know what council tax was until that age...
I didnt know women could orgasm until I lost my virginity aged 16 (luckily to a guy who knew they could!) I just thought it was something only men could do... seems so ridiculous that I managed to get to that age thinking that!

BattenburgIsland · 21/04/2019 20:41

Oh and I cant tell my left from my right! I also struggle to read the time an embarrassing amount...

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 21/04/2019 21:10

Anything to do with the stock market, currency exchange etc. And don’t even get me started on BitCoin!

polkadotpixie · 21/04/2019 21:21

Where the universe came from
How the Internet works
How the money markets operate
Pensions/Tax etc
How TV & Phones work

I'm sure there's more but those are the main things that are too big for my brain!

I do know lots of entirely useless information and can name all 50 US states despite never having been there 😂

Lifecraft · 21/04/2019 21:32

I can still not at all fathom why on earth two negative numbers multiplied creates a positive number. I’m sorry, but that makes NO SENSE at all, and I am still incensed at my school maths teacher for teaching me such a ridiculous concept at all.

Say you have £30. Six £5 notes. If I take away £5, you are minus £5, so you have £25 left. If I take away four £5 notes, you are minus £20, so have £10 left. Because 1 lot of -5 = -5. So 4 lots of -5 = -20.

If 4 x -5 = -20, then it's only logical that if you change any one of those symbols from minus to positive, it will give the opposite answer. If you change both symbols, it will give the same answer, the first change reverses the answer, the 2nd change reverses it back again.

4 x -5 = -20. -4 x -5 = 20. 4 x 5 = 20. -4 x 5 = -20.

rosydreams · 21/04/2019 21:35

how to iron,no matter how many times i try it looks worst than when i started =p

Brilliantidiot · 21/04/2019 21:39

I'm pretty good with my boiler/heating system, can bleed a radiator and top up low pressure, relight the pilot light etc. Can plumb in a washing machine, fixed my hoover on more than one occasion, with different ailments.
However, how local government and politics work? Nope.
Brexit - wtf? though from what I do understand that seems pretty standard
Sort of get tax and pensions
On and off on a laptop is about as good as I get.

Most of the practical stuff I've picked up or learned from Google through necessity. The stuff I don't know I haven't had go wrong yet!

Lifecraft · 21/04/2019 21:41

How planes stay up in the air

Hold a spoon lightly between your thumb and forefinger, so it can swing back and forth. Run your kitchen sink tap. Dangle the spoon so the bottom of the spoon touches the running water. The spoon will be sucked into the water.

The water running over the curved surface of the spoon is like the air rushing over the curve on the top of the wing of a plane, and the plane is sucked upwards. The bottom of a formula 1 car is the same, and the air rushing over the surface of the bottom of the car sucks it to the ground, so it can corner at high speed. The call that downforce. When an F1 car is doing over 120mph, it could drive upside down along the top of a tunnel and not fall down.

Brilliantidiot · 21/04/2019 21:53

And something I have literally just been told by teenage DD when I lost internet for a few seconds, and the dinosaur pops up and tells you you've no connection?
The Dino is a game! You click on Dino and he runs and you tap the screen or the return button if not touch screen to jump over cactus on the ground!
I have been using the t'internet longer than she's been alive and never knew!

Off to put aeroplane mode on because it's strangely addictive!

TattiePants · 21/04/2019 22:29

To everyone who struggles naming countries, counties, US states, capital cities etc then Jetpunk is brilliant (and addictive).

www.jetpunk.com/quizzes/how-many-countries-can-you-name

It's also excellent for number 1 hits of the 1980s, Harry Potter characters and the 100 best books (to name just a few). Can you tell I waste way too much of my time pratting around on the internet!

Wauden · 21/04/2019 22:55

I have virtually no sense of direction. I get by only by concentrating hard, or if I am walking with someone else, just lagging behind a little and taking a cue from them.
Choreography is difficult to follow, when I tried to learn dances.
I suppose that the two are linked in the brain.

Wauden · 21/04/2019 23:08

I don't really understand the solar system. It all seems too vast to comprehend

cauliflowersqueeze · 21/04/2019 23:09

I don’t really get the whole “backstop” Brexit thing.
Big gaps in understanding of taxes and pensions too.

Still18atheart · 21/04/2019 23:16

Things I should know but don’t
My left from right by now- I still have to lift up the end to see if it makes the L shape. Also if someone said put up your writing hand I’d not be confident I put my right hand up.
Basic car maintenance- the idea of changing a tyre breaks me into a cold sweat.
How to do a roast
How my pay works out and I have no idea how much I earn a year. Per a month i know and could multiple that up to give a rough estimate
How many units of alcohol a week I consume (average) was asked by the dentist the other month and the assistant looked like I had two heads when I said I had no idea. She gave a rough guide of how much a large glass of wine was and I guesstimated 10 units. I have no idea if I was wildly off or not. Nor if that’s good or bad.

There are probably 100s more

Still18atheart · 21/04/2019 23:17

Oh yes anything to do with brexit. Zoned out 18 months ago for a week and now have no idea what’s happening really

Artesia · 21/04/2019 23:18

Someone asked about a career average pension scheme.

Basically there are two types of pension scheme- defined contribution and defined benefit.

In a defined contribution (DV) scheme your employer promises to pay a certain amount of money into a pot each year. That money, together with your contributions, is invested and whatever it is worth at the point of retirement is used to buy your annuity, which provides you with income retirement. There’s no guarantee as to what your pot will be worth at retirement, that depends on the investment return. Employers like DC schemes because the costs to them are predictable and manageable.

In a defined benefit scheme, your employer effectively promises you a certain level of income in retirement. Typically that was based on a percentage of your final salary, eg 1/60 of your final salary for each year of employment. That would mean someone who worked there for 20 years would build up an annual pension of 20/60ths, or 1/3rd, of their final salary. Employees usually pay in a fixed contribution into a pot to help fund the pension, but the employer has to pay the rest, so if investments don’t perform, the burden is on the employer to top up the payments to the promised amount. This makes them expensive, and unpredictable, for employers, which is one of the reasons DB schemes have pretty much been phased out in the private sector.

Career average schemes are a type of DB scheme, but the final pension is a percentage of the employee’s average salary, rather than their final salary. This was introduced as a way of making it a bit cheaper for employers.

Hope that makes sense?!

IncognitaIgnorama · 22/04/2019 13:13

@Artesia - thank you so much! That's a brilliant explanation and I finally understand - I am no longer a total pension ignoramus Grin Thanks also for explaining in a way I can understand too - DB has tried several times (accountant) and gets crabby when I tell him I still don't understand. Planning on ringing him and reading your explanation to him so he understands how to explain to any clients. Though he probably doesn't get crabby with them!

Hugely appreciated Flowers

Artesia · 22/04/2019 13:50

Thanks Incognita Blush

It was my field a long time ago- pre children. My favourite bit of my job was writing member communications- loved trying to find ways to explain it all in ways people could understand. Nice to know my brain hasn’t totally given up after too many years of Peppa Pig and playgroup!!!

honeybeetheoneandonly · 22/04/2019 19:45

OMG, brilliantidiot, I never knew that.
I just switched my internet off to see what that dinosaur does. I'm tempted to make a new thread dedicated to that fact. I feel it's totally unknown.