....seriously?
Background: ex is a liar, cheat etc. Divorced over 10 years. Has regular contact but no maintenance paid. Every school trip, uniform, lunch, haircut, pair of shoes...paid for by me. Every holiday they have had was with me. He rarely does anything with them, refuses to take them to parties or activities, so every museum, theatre, park, stateley home trip, round of crazy golf with me, paid for by me. I have endeavoured to give them experiences and a good life generally and I expect them to do chores, tidy up etc. at home. I work full time, part time and seasonally to fund it all. I also care for a very ill parent.
Latest girlfriend been around a good number of years but in the last 12 months has delighted in slagging me off at every opportunity. Not really sure how/why the change. For context, she has never met me. I am not a difficult ex, I am entirely self sufficient and never ask the ex for anything. By contrast, she doesn't work and seems entirely dependent on my ex since she has fallen out with her family (who used to employ her). Things came to a head late last year when her behaviour was so awful, my ex had no choice but to act and end the relationship. However she has hung around and it is clear to me that although they stopped living together, they are still seeing each other.
My eldest (16), has just returned from a few days there and said they sat him down, ostensibly for her to apologise. What in actual fact seems to have happened is a half hour rant about what a terrible mother I am, how they haven’t had the childhood she believes they deserve and how she only slags me off because she is so frustrated. My ex backed her up and actually said that my not having a new partner had denied them the experience of a proper family life and that was unacceptable. So all in, the apology was all about me, someone she has never met and someone he walked away from 10 years ago.
AIBU to say what the actual fuck?!