To think there is no excuse

[PinkGlitter123]

To be quiet and hostile with someone in place of not speaking your mind over something that has upset you? The excuse being that it would cause more problems to speak out.

It would depend on the context.

You've answered your own question in the last sentence. That's a valid reason, aka pick your battles.

If you've already had the same argument several times, no point having it again.

If the other person understands why you are upset and doesn't care, again there isn't much point discussing things.

Depends on the relationship and location whether its home or work etc.

In what way are they being hostile? Not engaging doesn't always mean they are being hostile. Maybe they don't see the point in talking about it because no resolution will be reached.

Things you say in the heat of the moment can never be unsaid.

Depends on the hostility I suppose. Not rocking the boat can be preferable to having a very unpleasant discussion which could lead to an argument. There will always be things that are better left unsaid.

Not meeting my eye
Being very quiet and distant
Saying they can't discuss what's on their mind as it will cause further issues

Maybe they're right? Maybe it would cause further issue to discuss it. Have you tried just being completely normal around them rather than asking what the problem is? Let them come out of it.

Yes it didn't work, attitude stayed the same

OP you cannot control how others act towards you, you cannot control how you act towards them.

If they don't want to say what's on their mind then you cannot force them to.

If you are mature you would realise all these things.

Well tbf, you're not telling us the whole story, and phrasing it as if we ought to agree with you - which suggests to me they might have a point!

But yes, sometimes when DH and I are being tetchy with each other through best resolution is to give each other some time out in order to get over it. Talking it out only involves petty bickering.

Good communication includes knowing when to keep quiet!

She's worried I have made a bad decision involving my DS who she adores.

Is this issue with your mum by any chance?

Mine is very much the same...