To gently have a word about inappropriate drunken behaviour

[PJLove80]

A colleague and friend of mine who is very senior in our business (and also happily married with young kids) was spotted at a recent work event holding hands with his (gorgeous) PA when absolutely hammered. He is a really lovely bloke and gut feel tells me he wouldn’t actually do anything physical but he does get absolutely hammered at any events. WIBU to tell him that people noticed and he might want to consider how much he is drinking when out on a work event? I honestly think he would be mortified but as I say I know him and his wife who is amazing and I think he might need a bit of a wake up call. Or should I just stay out of it? Will go with majority.

Holding hands I'd think there was a romantic relationship there. And he's already over the side.

If I was very close to him, I'd say you know you were holding hands with Jane, what's going on there then, are you shagging?

But if you're not close enough to ask that question, then don't go there at all, it will simply back fire on you.

Sorry I meant to write many. Do you actually think it's that common? That many posters in a site of millions are all shagging their bosses? It's really not that normal fpr married men to try it on with their employees.

I'm going against the grain here. I think if you and your family socialise with him and his, you should have a word. Otherwise he's putting you in the position of having to smile and chat with his wife, and effectively siding with him. I'm not saying you should side with her either, you should be neutral, but you're not if you don't say anything to him but carry on the socialising with her.

And if you genuinely think he'd be mortified about what he did and about the gossip, then I think it would be kinder to tell him so that he can avoid getting hammered and repeating the behaviour next time.

I'd agree with Bluntness tbh. There's an intimacy, a comfortable familiarity about hanging out holding hands.

I'd have to say something.

If you are friends, then yes, i would have to say something to him.

I also think you should say something

I’d say something.

Holding hands is very intimate to me.

If he's a friend more than a boss I'd tell him he's currently the subject of gossip and it's not fair on anyone. His wife, his PA or you as you don't want to be lying to his wife. And if you can bring up the alcohol probably a good plan. But then I am fairly outspoken.

Holding hands is very intimate to me.

If he's a friend more than a boss I'd tell him he's currently the subject of gossip and it's not fair on anyone. His wife, his PA or you as you don't want to be lying to his wife. And if you can bring up the alcohol probably a good plan. But then I am fairly outspoken.