On/Off boyfriend of three years is 37.
He's never had a proper job.
He was diagnosed as bipolar two years ago (hospitalised for three months).
He has two masters degrees.
He lives off benefits.
I really loved him at first. Very passionately.
I've just turned 40.
Single mother.
I'm very fat.
Live in mainland europe in very rural area. No friends.
Work from home.
He is always "looking" for a job. But, it never goes anywhere.
Yesterday he said he was at an important job interview. But I saw him online when he should have been there. He doesn't have a smartphone. He had to be at home.
I asked him about the interview. He said it didn't go so well. I then texted to say I'd seen him online. He hasn't got back.
There's lots of backstory. I feel sorry for him. I'm fond of him, but think I might be selling myself short.
He's great with my kid.
We don't live together.
We have a good sex life.
He buys me thoughtful presents for birthdays etc, but we never go anywhere or do anything. He's very tight.
He just watches films and plays video games and sleeps all day.
Was I wrong to call him out on the lie? Should I give him a break because of his mental health issues? Or am I a knobber for sticking around?
I think I'm very worried about being on my own. I used to very confident. I don't know what's wrong with me.