I've been with my DP for 6 years. Our relationship has always been a happy one and we have a lot in common, very cuddly/kissy etc, same group of friends.
We are both 28. I work in teaching and have done for 2 years, earning 24,000 a year. DP has been in and out of temp jobs, has applied for RAF, Police and other civil service jobs but hasn't been getting in (now having to wait six months to apply again). We both have degrees. I was covering nearly all the bills with DP giving 400pcm.
We live in the south east, so rent is expensive. We rented a house together and it was in my name as they wouldn't accept DP on the tenancy being in a temp job- to be fair he has always worked 40 hour week and was earning around 17,000.
I came home a few weeks ago and DP had moved his stuff out- said he couldn't afford the 400pcm anymore and was moving to his parents. I was devastated, and felt stupid, as everything is in my name.
We broke up for a week or two, but got back together with DP agreeing to stay a couple nights a week. In my state of heartbrokeness, I agreed. I thought may be he had left because of something wrong in the relationship, however nothing has changed since he got back and he's still as loving and doting as ever (apart from financially).
Fast forward two months, I am now paying for everything. DP stays up to three nights a week and is contributing nothing. He sometimes will cover cinema if we go, or meals out but this is far and few inbetween. He is paying his parents £80.00 a week rent, too. He doesn't gamble, smoke and only drinks once a week, so not sure where all his money goes. I even mentioned I might need a second job to cover the bills, meaning I'd work a 16 hour day, and his reponse was 'oh that's gonna be tough'.
I just feel mortified. it feels like we are going backwards and EVERYthing is on his terms. Our bills are still two person bills, apart from council tax, as the companies for water etc are not willing to look at the accounts until the end of the year.
I feel like an absolute mug- his mums delighted to have him back, she loves to dote on him (washing, cleaning, wiping his chin).
Should I give up on six years and go?