AIBU to wonder why my DH is so much more ill with the same illness?

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If I catch a cold, DH catches it soon after but is more poorly than I was. Same for tummy bugs, sore throats etc. Is there a reason why he would feel much worse than I did, or is he just a bit more of a wimp

I get you …
Me: I've woken up with a cold.
DH: I've had it all week.
Me: My arm hurts.
DH: I think mine's broken.
Me: I feel awful today.
DH: I'm dying!!!

OK made it up, but that's basically the gist of any illness-related conversation we have.

The penis owners are always more sick than the wimmin

Oh I have experieced some of this. Am pregnant and had a gross cold recently. I wasn't able to take anything and just kinda got on with things, went to work, got to bed early etc.
Himself got it and had ALL THE DRUGS yet was V BAD

You're mummy. Mummy can't be ill - she has to take care of him!

I have nasty cough cold thing that's going around,and soldier on maxing out my inhaler,and trying to control the massive coughing fits.H is looking a bit gloomy,ask him how he is and get how fed up he is with this cold he's had,he is fed up with being ill.....this is the cold I didn't know he had,as he hadn't sneezed/coughed, no streaming nose.....
So annoying...

Oh yes, a friend said to her husband years ago that it was good that he didn’t have periods because the period pain would definitely be worse than hers!

I had flu when I was 6 months pregnant. Our ds was a year old and I was trying to deal with him whilst shivering, aching and not being allowed much in the way of pain relief because of being pregnant.
DH came home from work at lunch time. I was about to thank him for coming to rescue me when he declared ‘I don’t know what I’ve got but it’s so much worse than you and ds. I’ve got to go to bed’ 🙄
I did throw a pillow at him which made me feel a bit better 😒

My problem is that if I feel a bit under the weather and say so, DH tries to make me go back to bed whereas if I'm a bit under the weather I prefer to take some painkiller etc and to carry on as normal. I'm probably a fool to myself but I can't just lie in bed!

Prefix any illness with 'man' (eg man flu) and the symptoms and pain will be the equal to the woman's except multiplied by ten.

I have not long had twins by general anaesthetic c section where I developed serious complications and had to be put into a coma for 2 weeks. I was then in hospital for a further 5 weeks until well enough to return home - albeit under instructions to rest.

When home I helped with twins where I could but after 2 operations (with one leaving me with an abdomen long top to bottom scar) I could only do light tasks and sadly meaning can't hold the twins.

Husband told me yesterday "it's easy for me" (meaning me and that whilst I'm doing bits, him and our extended family are doing the feeds and real work.)

So even if you are told by Drs yr lucky to be alive, they will still be a mard arse if you don't do everything!

Isn't it just that things affect people differently?

DC3 always suffers more then the rest with colds, viruses and bugs. I seem to get floored by them and DH doesn't.

Maybe he's more run down? Sleep apnea? Mores stressed? Different immune system? I had this last year. I'd catch every little bug from the kids but 10x worse. DC1 had a minor tummy bug for one day I couldn't keep anything down for a week. DC2 had a cold I ended up in bed for 2 weeks with tonsillitis and needed antibiotics to shift it.

Some people experience more severe symptoms of illnesses than others. There is some evidence that a small number of people who experience very mild symptoms are responsible for spreading 90% of the viruses.

So don't go carrying on regardless 😷

there is some evidence to suggest they aren't putting it on!

I'm not telling my husband this though.

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/man-flu-colds-women-gender-scientists-immune-system-caveman-testosterone-a8105006.html

SPUDUDON'TLIKE I was comatose four days after gallbladder,c-section and pancreatitis,blood clot and kidney infection-12 day's in hospital baby in NICU six weeks-I could barely walk after I got home and had my DH said anything like yours said I'd be referring to him in the past tense! Best of luck to you and your twin babies! (Mine is 18)

My Baby app had an article on colds/flus which said that they can get progressively worse/more serious as they pass between family members. Not sure how that works but made me relieved I’m usually the first to succumb!

Thank you @EKGEMS for the good luck wishes

Aimadre Thu 18-Apr-19 17:57:15
My Baby app had an article on colds/flus which said that they can get progressively worse/more serious as they pass between family members. Not sure how that works but made me relieved I’m usually the first to succumb!

Suspect the rationale behind this is that primary care giver's tend to get the infection/virus first and then pass it on to rest of family. Primary care giver in the majority (still) is the woman. She carries on the rest don't.

When my kids were little, I struggled on (as you do) and got grumbled at. X numbers of days later my then husband would get ill and take to his bed. I can't count the times he whimpered from his sick bed "If I'd known you felt like this I'd have been more sympathetic" usually followed by a request to do something for him - like pass the remote for instance

Because despite spending thousands of years trying to convince us we're the weaker sex, men are fucking wet noodles.

I’ve been battling a cold for the last few weeks. Today it’s come to a head. I’m also 6m pregnant so can’t take any decongestant or anything much other than paracetamol.

Dh came home and swears he has flu. Proper flu. And that I’ll “have” to deal with ds tomorrow while he recovers. I told him to fuck off. Gave him the box of ibruprofen and the decongestants and reminded him how lucky he was to be able to take all the drugs.

I’ve explained I’m not getting out of bed until 930 tomorrow morning. As I’ve been off this week studying etc and have been up at 630 every day and dropped him into work and ds at nursery. I’ve done all the chores. And have let myself get run down when actually all I’ve wanted to do is crawl back to bed.

He is on the couch sniffling.