To think it's OK to keep your options open when dating?

[MollyPolli]

I was talking with some friends, A and B. A is single and is on the dating scene. She has a few first dates with different men lined up over the weekend which horrified friend B who said friend A should have better standards and its disrespecting the dates to be going on dates with other men. We both thought she was potty. Are we BU?

B was being U.

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B is completely wrong. I bet she's married

B is U.

I think B is being unreasonable, if B doesn’t like this set up that’s fine, but it doesn’t mean anyone else should have to do the same as B.

At the end of the day it’s just dating, it isn’t an exclusive relationship. She’d be horrified by my dating style 😂

No, I agree with B. But then I am old and probably have old fashioned beliefs.

Well if she's likely to have sex on the first date I might be a bit of her having a different date the next time and doing the same, but I wouldn't tell her. As long as she's safe and honest it's fine and I think at first / second date OLD it's normal

Think B is in the wrong. As long as A is safe etc then that's all that matters.

B is being ridiculous. The guys will no doubt be going on other dates too.

B is being completely ridiculous

I think B is naive and possibly been out of the dating scene awhile?

I think rules have changed. Its different if you meet in real life - where you already know there is or could be an attraction but if you are OLD it doesn't count in less you meet in person.

We've had this conversation in my friendship group. Although I get chatting to multiple people on-line i snormal, it would feel odd to me to have dates lined up on Friday and Saturday night with different people - but I've been in my relationship for over 10 years and it seems in that time things have changed and it's now the normal.

I think I found really odd is it's apparently acceptable to say to your friday night date "I've had a lovely time, but I've got another date tomorrow so want to see how that goes before I decide whether to see you again" - that would put me right off!

B sounds ridiculous

It's the US version of dating. Meet lots of different people - find someone who you want to spend more time with. Some people might not chose to sleep with them until they decided if they like them and that's up to the individual.

A while ago now, but from my experience first dates in online dating can be quite weird and short as you find out the man invented several inches in height, gained fifteen years, gained 50lb, forgot to mention 3 kids, exaggerated his job title, snorts strangely and smells odd. If she meets a few the chances are she'll only like one of them at most anyway.

It's the US version of dating. Meet lots of different people - find someone who you want to spend more time with. Some people might not chose to sleep with them until they decided if they like them and that's up to the individual.

It used to be the US style -- OLD has meant it's now very much the current UK style as well. I mean, I last had a 'date' in the 1990s, but that's my understanding, and seeing threads where people discuss having the exclusivity conversation on here suggests it's very normal now.

I'm old and have been married a long time!

I agree that it's the mode of dating these days, but I think it wouldn't suit me one bit so I see B's point. I'd be rubbish at it.

Good job my university halls set me up with flatmates of similar interests really, so I could end up going out with and marrying one girl's ex (we're all still friends by the way, came to each other's weddings, and met up at the weekend).

Nothing to me about what the other person is doing - I just am not social enough to want to meet multiple new people at the same time, each time judging if I want to shag them or not! I'm more of a 'bond with someone in a group and peel off' kind of woman.