So been with husband 15 years; married for 11 years, a few Dc. His family own a farm. His siblings are not capable of running the farm. So it has been given to him, his dad is ill, and the farm lands have been signed over to him in the last year or so, to avoid inheritance tax and to take some sort of control. The youngest sibling has however been given control of part of it…. I.e he has been given a legal term lease on the farm to work it, which is ok with my DP. So he pays nominal rent on the lands and works everything else, all profits of the DB are his own. Except he can’t do it. I don’t want to be too detailed but it is an animal type farm and my sick FIL picks up his slack, i.e not getting out of bed to sort the animals, not really engaging with the care of the animals; it is a full-time job and he is not doing it.
From my DH’s perspective if the DB can’t get his shit together then he laughs and says we will have to have to sell the lot of it. But I know he does not want to lose it out of respect to his Dad, who built it from nothing.
It started getting tricky when I asked DP for the legal paperwork on the farm, that was signed off on 18 months ago, he still can’t produce it for me. Or won’t. We both knew his sibling would not be able to run it. I said why can’t you produce the paperwork? On further research, but not information from DP, he has been left the land and the younger son has been given the equipment. The equipment is worth more than the land. If all things are equal in the morning, my DH has land worth x and x-1 because he owns no equipment to farm it. My BIL has land of nothing but has equipment of +2 that he can’t use, because he simply is not able to. I know that something is being hidden from me, there is a smirk when asked or a shock or a general unease. AIBU to want to know all the terms? What does anyone feel may be the game that I feel I am unaware of? It sort of feels like I am a tourist looking in, don't want anyone's crap or money, so I am in a good position from that point of view.