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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To not appreciate people's LONG, sent on-mass travel emails?

18 replies

mm22bys · 14/07/2007 22:34

Am I being unreasonable to not appreciate people's long emails sent to EVERYBODY they know, about their travels?

I have seen my fair share of the world, so it's not a case of jealousy, but I really do not find interesting, and do not have the time, to read my friends' latest NOVEL-length emails about their travels.

What is the point of them?

I am not interested
I don't have the time
They are not personalised, so it's not like they took any effort other than going throught their contact list...

Boring, boring, boring

Why do they bother,

and would it be unreasonable to ask them to remove me from their "chain-list"

OP posts:

themoon66 · 15/07/2007 00:03

Ooooh now then. I would say.. don't ask to be taken off their email list coz that would just upset and insult them IMO.

why not just browse the email when it arrives for any bit that might be personal to you, then delete and forget.

YABU to get so hot under the collar about such stuff and nonsense.

WendyWeber · 15/07/2007 00:05

What themoon said

Don't be pissed off, it's not worth it, or piss them off, ditto - either skim-read, or read properly and snigger, or just delete.

MotherFunk · 15/07/2007 00:05

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WendyWeber · 15/07/2007 00:07

This sounds like the travel version of the Christmas round-robin though, MF - I understand where m2b is coming from!

UCM · 15/07/2007 00:09

Delete and find a time when they come back down to earth and have a child to remind them

UCM · 15/07/2007 00:10

and if they don't have kids, then, by that time you have already worked out that you don't like the fuckers, so ignore them!!!!!!!!!!

nappyaddict · 15/07/2007 02:17

my friends just gone travelling and she set up a facebook group so if we want to see what she is doing we can but she doesn't have to email everyone every week.

helenhismadwife · 15/07/2007 16:23

I am guessing that you are on the "chain list" because they consider you a friend and think you will be interested in what they are doing and where they are, if you are not a friend and not interested it is not unreasonable to ask to be removed from the list or do as others have suggested and just delete it.
I do think you are being a bithard on these people are making an effort to keep in touch in what is obviously an exciting and important time even if it is not personalised

DoubleBluff · 15/07/2007 16:24

Don't be so miserable!
If you don't want to read them delete them, not a hardshiip for you is it?

wheresthehamster · 15/07/2007 16:27

At least it's more interesting than having to wade through email after email of unfunny jokes then be asked later in the week if you thought they were funny

IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 15/07/2007 16:28

Point your friend the great advantages of keeping a blog. We met some people that sent a general e-mail every time they farted. Since they have a blog we can easily ignore (and don't spend so much time deleting their rubish to make space for more important work related e-mails).

policywonk · 15/07/2007 16:29

Oooh, I'm with you on this (but then I can be a bit of a miserable bugger). They are soooo dull to read. Don't ask to be taken off the list, though, unless you are prepared to lose the friendship - just bin them and reply to your friends with a short note every now and then.

I once really pissed somebody off by failing to respond to exactly the kind of emails you describe, and it wasn't worth losing a mate over.

IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 15/07/2007 16:36

I have a cousin who kept sending a disgraceful chain of general messages that ranged from religious rubish (the world would finish this winter...) to how to be the perfect mother by becoming the perfect doormat.

The messages were so sexist, machist and full of badly used bible references that wehn I got the one about being being a doormat= good wife, I felt the need to reply and said what I thought of each of the points I got a very annoyed replied who ended with something in the likes of "this is to be accepted not to be thought through"

Have I heard from her again? erm, no, that was her last e-mail 4 years ago. Sadly... I think that I'm a bit releived

DoubleBluff · 15/07/2007 16:38

Use your email filter so that any messages from that sender go straight o your recycle box.

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mm22bys · 15/07/2007 21:45

Guess I was being ABU, but that was the result of being stuck, not moving AT ALL, on the M25 for 3 hours yesterday!

I can just delete, I know, I read an article on another site about how "boring" backpackers are and just wanted to get MNers take on it.

I wouldn't really ask to be taken off their list, I was just being facetious!

Maybe I might send them an email about all the DS1 and 2 are up to...that will thrill them!

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Sixofone · 16/07/2007 10:47

Hmmm...if you're not jealous because you've been there and done that, are you just being smug because you have?

I LOVE these emails. It absolves me entirely of the guilt I feel because I can't be arsed to pick up the phone and talk to people who were friends at one point but are now morphing into acquaintances to find out what's going on in their lives - and it then gives me lots of things to talk to them about when I do actually get round to it

rookiemum · 16/07/2007 13:15

I like mms suggestion, perhaps I will send everyone I know a long and tedious email about DS and his fabulous development.

I don't mind these at all if they are from someone close. For example a very close friend of mine is likely to move to NZ soon, I know she has lots of friends and will be unlikely to keep in touch with everyone so I would be delighted to receive group emails from her.

However I have received ones from people I know vaguely from an organisation I used to belong to, I'm talking about people where I probably met them 5-6 times and wouldn't have their telephone numbers.

Quite frankly I don't give a rats arse what they are up to and if I want to know what Thailand is like, I will read a brochure or watch The Beach movie.

Also its a bit budding journo isn't it. Hey look everyone I'm such a fab writer that I am sharing my personal innermost thoughts on my "Journey" as they are never on a year long holiday because that would be a bit common.

Oops never realised I had such latent hostility on the whole thing, now don't get me started on chain christmas letters. We get an interesting bunch from some US relatives of relatives which recently have included political and religous statements and a blow by blow account of one persons serious ailments during the year.

alicet · 16/07/2007 14:04

Also these people will be going to an internet cafe and spending money to send the messages. To write personal ones to everyone is expecting a bit much - unless you're a close friend or have been sending them messages too. I have to say I don't always read these if I don't have time but its nice sometimes to read what they are up to.

I can totally understand where you are coming from but I would say just don't read them if you're not interested

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