To say I don’t want to see the DH parents this Easter?

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They live 40 mins away and we’ve spent the last 6 years with them for Easter. We see them roughly every other weekend or at least once a month.

This time my parents are coming (from the other end of the country) who we see about once every 2 months, alternating between them coming here and us going there.

I have said to DH can we just not see his this time, and go to see them next weekend. I just want to be with my family and not worry about another set of parents there too. They get on ok and we’ve done dinners a few times but it’s not regular.

They are probably expecting us to go there as usual and if we say my parents are coming they’ll say they want to come over or do dinner or something. DH said can we just have them round for a bit on the Monday for tea and cakes and stuff but I’d really rather not, as my parents don’t come down much and we’ve actually moved house recently and my parents haven’t seen it, so I just want to not have anyone else over.

Am i being weird?

Put your parents first! Selfish man!

Weird. What's an hour?

How long are your parents down for ?

They’re arriving Friday evening, going back on Monday afternoon.

No you are not. To me Easter is just like Christmas so one year you spend with one set of parents and the following with the other. If you dh wants to see his parents then he can go on his own

Given that you will be with your parents for Friday evening, all of Saturday and Sunday, and Monday morning I don't really think DH IBU by suggesting that his parents come round for a couple of hours on Monday afternoon.

Given that you will be with your parents for Friday evening, all of Saturday and Sunday, and Monday morning I don't really think DH IBU by suggesting that his parents come round for a couple of hours on Monday afternoon.
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Bit late now for challenging the status quo. If you want to do that it’s only fair to give people time to get used to the idea!

YANBU, his parents have had 6 years of Easter - it's your parents turn now.

I don't think it's a big deal for them to come over for tea and cake for a couple of hours on one of the days - you have the whole Easter weekend. It's up to you though, and it sounds like they get to see a lot more of you than your own parents do so I can see where you're coming from.

I would prefer to spend time with my parents without having to do all of the polite conversation to make sure everyone is involved, so to me YANBU.

However, your DH should have already told his parents you won't be going, especially as you go every Easter.

No. This year spend time with your own parents. You only get to see them every couple of months. You see DH's parents every couple of weekends so surely they won't expect to intrude on a quality long weekend with your parents.

I think there's deffo a compromise here. I don't think its very fair on your husband to tell his (presumably) much loved parents that they can't see you on the second biggest family holiday of the year. If yours are here for three nights then surely it would be nice to have them over even just for brunch on the Monday? Then everyone gets to meet up.

Happy Easter xx

Blimey he wants his parents over for just a few hours Monday, what is the issue here??

Seems like the ideal solution to me.

Yabu

It's not his parents fault you see your parents so little, and i don't see why they should be dropped this year as your parents have finally decided to visit at Easter.

send DH to his parents and you enjoy time with yours.

It’s Easter from tomorrow. I think it’s unfair to say you don’t want them to come now. Especially when he’s compromised on a couple of hours on Monday.