Would you report this neighbour?

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Recently moved and one of our neighbours seems to terrorise the whole street. It's mixed council and owned, and most of the residents are older people, plus a few young families.

The dad from this family woke us up at 6 or 7 am few weeks ago banging on the front door screaming at his wife ' I will fucking kill you, open the door you fucking cunt', hammering on the door etc. I called 101 as he sounded pissed but I was on the line 30 mins with no pickup and I wasn't sure which number house it was at that point so I gave up.

So as not to drip feed, they have an approx 13 year old son - nice enough kid as far as I can see, I've chatted to him a little bit while trying to retrieve my cat from the street.

The mum is equally shouty and I've lost count of how many times I've heard her screaming 'fuck off you cunt' and so on to someone inside, possibly her partner, possibly the dog. They play really loud music multiple times a week at odd times - eg a Tuesday at 5pm, which they sing along to.

Yesterday is what scared me - I was with baby DS in the front room when I heard the dad shouting really loudly, abusing some other man who I couldn't quite hear, screaming 'You'd better watch yourself, I'll kill you, I'll stand on your fucking neck you cunt' etc etc. DH was due home any second so I picked up the baby and went outside because I was scared it was him who being screamed at - it wasn't, but this guy saw me and went back inside. The rest of the street were also looking on.

I really don't like living anywhere near this man and am toying with the idea of seeing if I could find out their landlord and report them with a view to them leaving, but I am frankly scared of them. They are definitely aggressive and I'm worried they'd suspect it was us, as we're new. Also, there's the matter of the poor kid - DH saw the kid looking embarrassed as his mum had just started swearing and screaming inside, so he's possibly not happy in his home situation - would you call social services? But again I'd be worried they'd know it was us, though I don't know how it works or the process or if it's likely to make things worse for the kid. WWYD?

No idea about how social services work so can’t answer that bit, but if you hear something similar to what promoted your 101 call again then call 999 instead if you think someone is at risk of harm. It’s their job to decide the urgency of the situation and when/if to attend.

Promoted - prompted!!

If they are shouting and swearing in the street and disturbing everyone I would keep a record of times etc and report to Landlord. You could report to police if they regularly cause a disturbance or swear in the street, especially if you feel its intimidating. I would report.

You can make an anonymous report to social services. I probably wouldn't report to the police unless I was pretty sure there was domestic violence because if they do suspect it's you and there is no DV then she will likely turn on you aswell as the husband. If I had the slightest inkling that the child was at risk I would report straight away.

I am not sure whether they are private rented or in council housing - does anyone know what's likely to happen if it was the council we complained to with a noise / anti social behaviour complaint. Are they likely to do anything?

I haven't overheard any aggression toward the child - just from their behaviour it seems a bit of a shit environment for him iykwim.

Yes. I would. Unquestionably.

That child's life is horrible.

And yes, anonymous report to SS is the route to go down.

I would report to social services yes. Or if you know child's school and address you could report via child's school, they should then refer onto SS if it meets threshold which would have thought it would, would school an e-mail. That way maybe less obvious its you and also alerts school immediately though an SS report will also alert school. They may well be under SS,already but more info more they can do.

If you think anyone is in danger would call 999. I have only reported once to social services (via school) and lady I reported did come round so often people do work out who reported them. If they do threaten you call 999. It was OK but potentially could have been dangerous, SS did ban her from contact with children.

There doesn't need to be anything aimed at child directly for child to be deemed at risk, hearing and seeing abusive behaviour towards others counts.

Are their names Wayne and Waynetta?

I wish they were @CustardySergeant because then they'd be fictional characters rather than real people.

If you hear someone shouting threats to kill, then dial 999.

One day, he might decide to carry out that threat.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but if it's a council house, you're unlikely to be able to get them moved. My neighbours have made the last year of my life hell, regularly getting arrested, smashing up their own house on numerous occasions, screaming and shouting the same things you've had to listen to - and the council do not care. The anti-social behaviour unit haven't responded to calls or voicemails and my letters go unanswered.

The awful neighbours before them caused a scene like you described. I called the police on 999 as 101 said threats to kill was too serious for them to deal with. Eventually the guy was dragged off in a cop car a couple of hours later. My neighbours moved to avoid the same issue again and now I'm stuck with someone far worse.

I would also have called 999 rather than 101. The noise people from the council are helpful too if it's unsociable hours. If you call 999 then social services will also get alerted if they have a child.

Make a video of these instances and call the police. He's threatening to kill people, ffs

Yes, call each time you think it is getting too aggressive. And don't go outside to watch with your baby next time you hear them incase they kick off at you with a babe in your arms.

@TheInvestigator I know, I feel idiotic that I went outside in the first place but as I said I was waiting for DH and in the moment I was convinced this guy was screaming at him. I won't go out in future, that's for sure.

I rang 999 when our old neighbour's husband was banging on their door in a very similar situation. The police took it very seriously, 2 cars with blue lights straight away, arrested him. The police came round later and told me to ring 999 every time I thought that there was violence next door. I was very impressed.

The couple moved out a few weeks later.

Can you search for the address on Zoopla/RightMove? If it's privately rented it might appear, either for the rental listing or the landlord purchasing it. Then it might give you a better idea of options.

Always dial 999 everytime you here this as it will build up a case as police will keep getting calls etc inform lzndlord or council and also call social services asap.

I would report it but would do it anonymously if possible.
Even though they are supposed to be confidential sometimes what they say gives it away OR what I have know happen the person investigating comes to see you first to get your statement face to to face and then leaves your house and goes straight to theirs ... Not difficult to tell who has reported them in that instance,

Every time, call 999. Honestly, keep calling till they stop.

Crime stoppers is anonymous to report after the event, but dial 999 in an emergency.