Employer, AIBU?

[Hollie089]

I have been absent from work with a FIT note for 7 weeks (physical illness in case this is relevant) I have called in/answered phone to manager or returned all calls promptly, I have engaged with OH.

Here's the AIBU bit. Employees are required to have welfare meetings with their manager (no problem with this) The first one was scheduled for a Friday, the appointment time came and went but she didn't show, after me calling she then messaged 'no it's on Wednesday'. Thing is, I have call recording so I know without a doubt it was the Friday, anyway I just accepted so as not to make a fuss.
Wednesday came and she was an hour late.

About 3 weeks later she phoned to arrange another, this was arranged for a Wednesday at 1pm, I was called at 12.15 to cancel as the person coming with her was on annual leave, she rearranged it for the following Wednesday at 1pm.

The following Tuesday the time was changed to 3pm for the next day via text as she had an important call. On the Wednesday the meeting was cancelled all together as someone who was supposed to be coming with her was sick.

AIBU to refuse to arrange another?! My FIT note runs out in 2 weeks and I am hoping to be back in work anyway as things are certainly improving!

(Apologies for length, didn't want to drip feed 😁)

Is your manager usually so useless?

YANBU, but you could still get in trouble for it, regardless of your manager's inabilty to plan.

Yanbu this is beyond ridiculous and incompetent.

Is raise that with HR. How incredibly slap dash.

I'd find that quite stressful and I would certainly feel like a very low priority. She certainly isn't treating the meeting as an important event in her calendar.

I think refusing to rearrange it will cause you problems. The purpose is to make sure you're doing everything you can to recover and that they know anything they can do to help you get back to work. With that in mind you can try to answer the points and when she next tries to arrange it say something like:

"That time is fine. I'm getting much better and hope to be back at work by X date as long as my progress continues this well. If the timing of when I expect to return to work means you don't need this visit or want just a quick check-in phonecall on the day instead then that's fine for me, just let me know. When I return to work I'm expecting to need to (whatever you need e.g. walk around for a few minutes every hour in the initial weeks after I return / have a seat available for my use at all times /...) and hope you can confirm that will be ok."
I'd bet she'll then suggest giving you a quick call, she'll ring an hour late or so but only talk for a minute to confirm you're still doing well and still expect to go back to work on X date. Then you've both done the welfare check, you just didn't get inconvenienced.

I can't really comment as she has only been in post about 3 months!