To say that only you can heal yourself

[PinkGlitter123]

From past relationship trauma and that jumping headfirst into another deep partnership will never be the answer to self healing?

YANBU

Therapy healed me!

Absolutely the worst thing to do. YANBU.

So you don't think it's an unreasonable thing to say to someone close to me? They have got very angry 😐

It’s not U, nope. But might not be tactful or wise either.

People repeat shit until a more adaptive strategy comes along. But, like you say, the self healing has to come from them. If it comes from you, it isn’t, by definition, self healing.

We can’t control others. Only ourselves.

Concept is fine. Glibly saying it to somebody else and expecting them to bow down to your wisdom is unreasonable.

They need to make their own choices and decisions and figure things out for themselves.

I feel they are at risk of great hurt which is why I said it.