DSDs come EOW they have for 10 years, they are 12 and 14.
They are nice girls, they have a few issues and obviously are brought up differently by their mum to how I would bring them up but we have quite a close relationship.
My issue mainly is DH not being consistent and dealing with issues as they arise. I mainly take a back seat though and let him do the “parenting”. My kids have left home.
DH is away a lot so when they are here is often the only time I see him too, which can cause frustrations.
Cleaning the house ready for my family visiting I found one of them has drawn all over the windowsill in their room. I’m not a massive fan of them having pens and pencils in the bedroom (as when little they used to draw over walls etc) but I let DSD draw sitting on the bed as she wasn’t doing any harm and I told myself not to be so anal so this has really pissed me off as a) she is way too old for that type of behaviour and b) she has signed her sisters name clearly trying to get her into trouble.
Then, behind the TV in the front room I found a load of sweet wrappers (which I never would have noticed had been taken) have been chucked there, which IMO they are also way too old to be doing too.
DH is like “yes, I will deal with it when I see them” (he won’t unless I remind him) and said “they haven’t even been in the front room” well - how the fuck else did they get there?! And he should have phoned them (we pay for their phones) and spoken to them.
The sweets thing in itself isn’t a huge issue but him defending them (basically stealing and then just chucking rubbish behind the TV) is.
I know when they come I will prob end up saying something but sometimes I wish he would just parent his children not always leave me to be the bad guy.
😤