AIBU to go to the GP or...?

[BrainWormsWontWin]

Blatantly posting here for traffic and I'll try and be concise.

Previous relationship, two children. Investigated ex for coercive control but let off as its hard to prove (was basically arrested to get him out the house).

Ongoing low levels of emotional abuse, saying I'll replace the kids, that I won't love them etc. It's causing them to be very up and down behaviour wise, particularly youngest at 3.5 years. They're both manifesting some attachment issues (logged by school and preschool).

He won't listen to me, thinks I'm evil. He is a classic narcissist. Court completely agreed I was reasonable and awarded me residency but he gets half weekends and holidays (which he dumps them with grandparents).

Do I go to early help hub who supported us through the DV, go to the GP and see about support for the kids? Call the NSPCC for advice? Mediation and court? Children's services?

It's so low level and hard to prove (my eldest tells me unprompted what's been said, I never question but try to be calm when he talks). Advice sorely needed!

I think you should start with approaching the children's schools. Make an appointment to talk with the senco and go from there. Schools are usually the first line in supporting families in difficult circumstances and will be able to either put support in place themselves or signpost you to the relevant services.

Yeah, we've had meetings before, I'll do that. They have been good. I think because it's Easter and they're with their dad I'm panicking. It's a week long exposure

I could’ve written this post almost word for word.

I went to the school and have been keeping them updated with everything. I then contacted SS who initially said because there is no physical violence involved they can’t do anything. I then emailed them to express that it is still mental and emotional abuse and I want it logged. They also spoke to the school etc.

I’ve contacted relevant people to apply for a non molestation order and have an appointment to sort out a child arrangement order along with a C1A form (domestic abuse)

I hope this helps in some way for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s truly awful

I have a child arrangement order as he kept threatening to kidnap them. I kind of wonder if I need to request this behaviour stops in mediation and if it doesn't to go back to court. I don't know how you sanction someone for something like this but he's a bully and like most bullies backs off when someone in power tells him off.

I'm just exhausted by it all and don't know how to stop it. I'm the one picking up the pieces.

I think the NSPCC will be helpful here, and probably the Early Help hub.
I suspect the GP may not have much to offer except to direct you to these resources, but you can go if you want to, I don’t think they’d mind.
I should think that early help is the gateway to children’s services, if they’re needed.

Thanks everyone for your answers, it's nice just to have it down somewhere. I feel like I'm going crazy