To think that the fear of unwanted pregnancy never ends.

[NoMoreBump]

I've had my children. Am done.

But I'm still of breeding age early 30s.

Im tired of the constant worry of pregnancy. My DH had the snip 2 years ago and my cycle is very regular however I am a week late and had non of the period symptoms I usually get upto 7 days before AF shows.

Now I know it is extremely unlikely I am pregnant. Much more likely to be a rouge cycle.

But it juts feels like that worry is always there and it's so unfair.

Even my neighbour who thought she was. Menopausal at 43 ended up pregnant.

Why didn't nature give us an ovary off switch.?!

I'm past that now- but no. It was never a worry. I used the pill for many years exactly as instructed and it worked. Then just used condoms and they worked.

Had my period ever been more than 2 weeks late using either of these methods I would have done a pregnancy test- which I did latterly when periods were erratic. Had the test been positive I would have had an abortion. I have one child and didn't want another.

Maybe stop tracking your cycle if it gives you anxiety? Or get your husbands sperm count done for reassurance?

Currently panicking myself, I have a 4 month old child, got the contraceptive injection when he was around 5 weeks old then waited another couple of weeks to have sex. It has stopped my periods which has sent me into mass panic as I also have raging heartburn (most likely due to terrible diet...), going to go to the pound shop and buy some tests just to have in as I expect I will probably 'feel' pregnant every now and again with having no periods now! Argh I swear being a woman this always sits at the back of your mind 🙈

Did your `doh have to do samples after the op to see if it had worked?

DH not doh

It seems women in all types of relationships worry

God no! As soon as DH had the snip I never thought about getting pregnant again. We've got our two boys, he's had the op so all's good 👍

no children (by choice) and was practically laughed out the doctor's office a few years go when I asked about sterilisation.

Yup, me too. Despite being mid/late 30s I was told I might change my mind. Much as I do really like the nurses at my practice, I was bloody irritated at the idea that, at this point in my life, I'm still not taken seriously as knowing that I don't want children.

And yes, I know how the OP feels. In my situation, I know that I wouldn't want to go through with a pregnancy but I'd rather avoid that scenario in the first place than deal with the result. I genuinely don't think the medical profession realise how much some women really don't want a/nother baby.

It comes to an abrupt and final end if you have a hysterectomy! Obviously, that wasn't the reason for mine but it's certainly a bonus.

I have asked re sterilisation and got told that a coil would be just as effective (I presume cheaper....

An IUS is actually more effective than female sterilisation, and a heap of a lot more reversible. It's hard to see why the NHS would want to be doing female sterilisation given that it's riskier, has a higher failure rate than IUDs and and a much, much higher chance of them being subsequently sued by someone saying the NHS should have refused them (it happens a LOT). Someone on here was advised to sue the NHS for sterilising her just a few days ago. About 10% of women regret sterilisation.

Buy an expensive pregnancy test, keep it in your cupboard for a day. Pee on it day after. I guarantee your period will come. 3 years of experience of ttc has taught me this...

Friar Tuck I was in a lesbian relationship for a few years and it felt great not to worry 😂😂

Having never wanted kids i've been worrying about it since i was 16!

A Mirena stops the fear, and being mid 40s

Wait til you have teenage children and have to start worrying about unplanned pregnancies they might be involved in...it truly never stops...!

If your DH had clear tests then nothing to worry about.
My oh never got a clear 1 so in the in the end I was having a minor op for something ( gynae ) as the norm birth contr was mentioned and I explained .I was offered sterilization at same time.
Am so glad as had a very late menopause. Despite my mum having an early one.
If you are still worried take a test.
G.oid wishes , have been in your position.

Typo . That should be good wishes .
Sorry

Yep. You never lose that fear of getting pg. The only benefit of actually being pg is that you can relax about not getting pg for a few months! But I'm through the menopause now and the relief at not having to worry about contraception us immense!