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AIBU?

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To believe she’s just a friend?

43 replies

Liveyourlifeinpixicolour · 16/04/2019 01:12

A woman who used to date husbands friend becomes close to husband and decides to take up a hypnotherapy course. Once she completed the course, she invited him to do a session. Husband develops an interest in chakras/healing energies and meets her two times after that for other sessions. Her texts became more frequent which I felt was slightly odd but obviously didn’t think anything of it as she was previously dating his friend and always asked how I was. Husband tells me that during one of their meetings she wore a short dress and apologized for dressing “inappropriately” he also told me that she spoke with him about losing her virginity with his friend and apparently had an “entity” become attached to her through intimacy (which I feel is inappropriate and don’t understand why she felt the need to divulge such information).

She also told husband that he has an “entity” attached to him which may have been through physical intimacy (I assumed referencing me). I decided to go along for a catch-up the next time they met up to try pick up on whatever was going on. She talked about her hypnotherapy stuff, how she was apparently possessed during one of her lectures throughout her course and how entities become attached to others and the “signs and symptoms” she then had to rush off for a “meeting”. A couple of months pass and I realize that she has blocked me on Facebook and tried to add husband as a friend which he hadn’t told me about but didn’t accept either. Husband seemed to think I was overreacting by becoming upset. I msgd her about this to see if there was some misunderstanding and she replied 2 days later stating how bizarre it was that I was blocked, she wasn’t sure what happened and other friends have also mentioned the same to her but she has so much “love and respect for both of us as a married couple”, she then unblocked me and sent me a friend request. I’ve since replied to her implying how strange the situation is and out of nowhere she starts telling me how she sees my husband as an “older brother” (although she met us both at the same time, about a year and a half into our relationship and never spent so much time to really establish any sort of close relationship esp not a brother)

AIBU to think this is inappropriate and overall just absurd (I’m not that much into the “healing” aspect of things either but I just don’t see how everyone she talks to seems to have entities attached to them.

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LilQueenie · 16/04/2019 02:48

The ladys tumours may be shrinking due to other factors she has failed to mention. Holistic treatment is done to relax and improve energy flow around the body which can make a little difference to tissues but not to the extent that she could do. The way she is so emotional about this stuff makes me wonder how long she has been practicing. Incidentley does she have he certificates for reiki healing because it is illegal to offer the service without being accredited. Hypnotherapy is entirely different.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 16/04/2019 03:03

Looks like you’re in a position again where your DH has caused you pain and is damaging your trust.

Yes this woman sounds like an ultratwat but ask yourself how many times these “situations” have arisen before and how many times was he at it behind your back on those occasions.

Some blokes love revelling in shit like this and I suspect you’ve got one of them. Their ego needs more feeding than they can ever care for your feelings.

LoudJazzHands · 16/04/2019 03:28

Given what you've said, I wouldn't trust either of them.

Humpy84 · 16/04/2019 03:32

Marthasginyard hahahaha brilliant

I would be just as concerned about the fact that he’s getting involved in this stuff especially with someone so unbalanced. Also makes me question his motivations for hanging out with someone like that and taking up this unusual interest.

She’s definitely guilty of something and I would put a ban on all contact between her and DH given his track record.

EmeraldShamrock · 16/04/2019 09:33

From your update OP I would walk away, he is a man who is in search of fantasy land, he in incapable of honestly and commitment.
Please take control of your destiny, he really has little regard for your feelings, I'd bet your family think little of him. Tell him it's over, enjoy your life. Flowers

JustDanceAddict · 16/04/2019 09:39

Nutty

Liveyourlifeinpixicolour · 16/04/2019 13:23

Thanks for the responses everyone. I guess the fact she even felt comfortable enough to divulge information regarding her sex life was worrying enough let alone him becoming so fixated on doing these sessions until I tried to talk sense into him. I think they might actually deserve each other

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ThatssomebadhatHarry · 16/04/2019 13:40

She sounds like a fruit loop x

Babykoala1 · 16/04/2019 13:46

If my husband started believing in all this shite then that would be enough to LTB!

MashedSpud · 16/04/2019 14:00

She sounds unhinged and she wants your dh.

She wore a short dress and drew attention to it then talked about sex entities and says she sees him as a brother when actually she wants his entity up her chakra.

RedPanda2 · 16/04/2019 14:05

Well i wouldn't trust anyone that deals in woo, and that includes your husband

Yessiry · 16/04/2019 14:29

He has cheated previously with other women (which he recently admitted)

Um what? Your DH is a serial cheater?

AnnieMay100 · 16/04/2019 14:34

She sounds like a nutcase. If your dh is really interested in that kind of them encourage him to meet other people elsewhere to continue it. I think he’s being unfair staying in touch with someone who is clearly being inappropriate and full on just over a mutual hobby. Don’t let her bother you, he’s your dh not hers.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 16/04/2019 14:38

She sounds bonkers.

But can you really trust a serial cheat of a DH with her? He’ll shag her and blame it on entities.

MaxNormal · 16/04/2019 14:42

Good lord woman, why are you still with a serial cheat?
With his history then yes he's definitely knobbing this one as well.

pushingdaisies · 16/04/2019 15:00

@MaxNormal "knobbing this one" Grin

Sorry OP, that made me laugh but it's true. I think you've got an entity attached to you in the form of a serial cheater and you need to get rid.

EmeraldShamrock · 16/04/2019 16:36

I believe you're right, they deserve each other. You gave him a second chance coming back it hasn't worked out, admit to yourself it was wrong to return.
She sounds completely nuts.

MissMoan · 18/04/2019 02:32

Alarm bells, I think, are absolutely justified here. Hubby should definitely get a new therapist.

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