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Emetophobia- feel awful tonight

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Haphazardhacker · 15/04/2019 21:53

I hate it, it’s such a selfish phobia. OH is unwell and I’m hiding downstairs, and have made a bed on the lounge floor I’m not being of any use to anyone. He feels bad as he knows how scared I am. Which makes me feel worse. I should be comforting him instead I’m just a big baby. Not looking for answers as I don’t think there are any just want to vent/get a virtual hug. I hate being like this :’(

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WorraLiberty · 15/04/2019 21:56

Have you sought any help OP?

I'm not sure if you're planning to have children but if you are, I can't imagine how difficult it would be to cope.

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Haphazardhacker · 15/04/2019 21:59

It’s the reason I’m not having any, made that decision years ago when I realised my mind was afflicted with this. I wouldn’t be able to cope, not would I want to pass this on to children.

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Bluemascara4 · 15/04/2019 22:00

It's a horrible phobia OP. I had it dreadfully as a child and into my 20s.

Virtual hugs .

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Haphazardhacker · 15/04/2019 22:01

Tried hypnotherapy and CBT , not helped. Feel like I just want a tablet to knock me out for 48 hours to when everything is back to normal.

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Haphazardhacker · 15/04/2019 22:01

Bluemascara how did you get rid of it?

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Fiveredbricks · 15/04/2019 22:03

You need proper therapy and to maybe get an awful dose of rotavirus... Kind of cures it's self after that.

Namechanger4dis · 15/04/2019 22:11

You’re not alone. It’s horrible.

I can feel my heart racing just thinking of someone puking.

I have got to the point where I can deal with my own sick but the thought of anyone else puking is horrid.

I nearly jumped in front of a car last month when someone threw up in the pavement just in front of me.

standardaccount · 15/04/2019 22:21

Eek sounds really difficult. Sorry you are going through that. I'm sure your husband understands, be kind to yourself.

Bluemascara4 · 15/04/2019 22:30

@Haphazardhacker

I was awful as a child. I used to cry about going in school trips in case anyone on the coach got motion sick .

I still remember the bone crushing fear and racing heart then . A real flight or fight panic.

I had hypnosis and cbt .

I then qualified as a nurse in early 20s! I'm not sure if it's over exposure and I'm still a bit on edge even now 20 years on. But I can cope and not run now or hide in the linen cupboard until a colleague took over .

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Haphazardhacker · 15/04/2019 22:39

Managed to raise a smile a moment ago. I’ll explain, It’s odd as as soon as husband came home a random cat followed him in. We don’t have any cats and I’m a bit of a loony I know but I genuinely believe the cat has been sent to try comfort me and help me cope. I managed to stay calm when he rushed upstairs as the cat was on my lap. Just gone for a wee (downstairs loo) and can see the cat looking at me through the glass front door.

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ItsPeanutButterJelly · 15/04/2019 22:52

You're not alone, OP. It's a bloody horrible phobia to deal with. Best I can suggest is try to stop fixating on the guilt of not helping your DH and get some headphones and watch a film downstairs. Can you make up a bed on the sofa? I wouldn't think twice about sleeping downstairs if my DH was sick.

You're right, it's a selfish sort of phobia but it's not you! How long did you try CBT for?

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Haphazardhacker · 15/04/2019 23:01

I’ve made a bed on the floor with a sun lounger pad. I was a bit cold so please don’t laugh but I’ve put my dickies padded overalls on to keep warm as haven’t got a duvet so I’m sort of wearing it instead.
God I hate this. The Notre Dame is in ruins but no it’s all about me tonight :( I hate how selfish this makes me

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malloo · 15/04/2019 23:07

I feel for you OP, it's a horrible phobia to have Please google the Thrive Programme (Rob Kelly), it worked for me.

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Haphazardhacker · 16/04/2019 08:29

Thanks malloo will look into it. I strayed downstairs and wore ear plugs. Didn’t get any sleep as the whole night my heart was just pounding. The ironic thing was that I was imagining him being up and down all night and that kept me up whereas if I’d not worn earplugs I would have realised he was tossing and turning in bed but not going to the bathroom. He was only unwell twice and that was before bed. I’m exhausted but am hoping this means he is on the mend as was only ill twice. Got everything crossed and have just had a very big coffee to perk me up for the day.

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HBStowe · 16/04/2019 09:15

You aren’t selfish OP - you’re in the grip of a horrible phobia. It’s not like you would choose this!

Bluemascara4 · 16/04/2019 17:37

@Haphazardhacker

Are you and DH feeling better today?

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Haphazardhacker · 16/04/2019 18:07

We’re both knackered, he is feeling a bit better but still not right.

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Susiesoap7 · 16/04/2019 19:59

I've had this since being a child. I had two bad bouts of food poisoning in the last couple of years, I couldn't leave the bathroom toilet for a few hours the first time and the second time was at someone else house which was another nightmare as I'm afraid of being ill in front of people but it seems to have cured me! Fingers crossed

TheDarkPassenger · 16/04/2019 20:18

I’m the same op. I have three kids and I cope because I have to but I think mine stems from my ex, he puked daily due to anxiety and we couldn’t go anywhere. I spent the entire time nervous and on edge for 5 years now I’ve come out with this awful phobia. Weirdly though I have coped, every time I’ve coped except the last time, when the eldest had a bug and I sat downstairs crying til oh got home. Awful awfulness. I had gotten a little bit better especially as my daughter had allergies as a baby so lots of vomit but last year she puked blood in hospital and seemed to set it all off again 10x worse.

Lazyteens · 16/04/2019 20:21

I feel for you as I have it too. I managed to have children and was lucky that I didn’t get morning sickness. When the children were small my DH used to look after them when they were I’ll while I hid somewhere else in the house and luckily I have not passed the phobia onto them. It has prevented me from some potential careers though. I hope all is well in your house OP.

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