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What should I do

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fluffY10345 · 15/04/2019 21:47

I really needs some advice.. the other week I was talking to my best friend about her 30th birthday as every year we do something special for our birthdays, my friend told me her me had arranged for her and some of her family members to go to the theatre on her birthday but would could do something the day after which was great.. my friend went on to tell me who was going and she said one of her other friends were going ( am not going to lie and say I don’t feel a bit pushed out in a way as we have been best friends since we were 12) but I thought who am I to question who she asked to go with her maybe she didn’t think I would like what they were going to watch.. But two days ago she called me and said somebody had dropped out and she didn’t want her mum loosing money so I could have the seat.. I haven’t said I would go yet as I kinda feel she only wants me there to fill the seat or am I being a baby? Please help Smile

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Decormad38 · 15/04/2019 21:50

Yes just go. It’s not that big a deal is it? Or stay at home and sulk?

Fiveredbricks · 15/04/2019 21:51

She's your bestfriend, but you are not hers. Take a step back and find some better friends.

gamerchick · 15/04/2019 21:53

You're not 12 anymore though OP. Wink just go.

Drum2018 · 15/04/2019 21:53

I wouldn't go. You weren't a good enough friend to be considered initially but now you'll do so as her mother isn't out of pocket. I'd just say that you cannot make it, no explanation needed.

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fluffY10345 · 15/04/2019 21:54

That what I was thinking thank you for your help

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madeofstarlight · 15/04/2019 21:55

I would only go if I actually wanted to see the show.

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fluffY10345 · 15/04/2019 21:55

Thank you Smile

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Jupiters · 15/04/2019 21:56

For me it would depend on whether it was something I actually wanted to see. If it was then I'd go, if it was something I wasn't bothered about I wouldn't. I wouldn't put myself out to be used as a filler.

I would also suggest whilst she might be your best friend, you might well not be hers? Maybe time to meet some new friends.

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fluffY10345 · 15/04/2019 21:57

Think you could be correct on that Thank you

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MyKingdomForBrie · 15/04/2019 22:00

She clearly doesn't think you'd be hurt by that so I guess she doesn't see it as an insult..? I think I'd be busy though.

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fluffY10345 · 15/04/2019 22:03

from what people are saying I think I will just say I can’t make it I have plans

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