Is it abnormal to have no hobbies or real interests?

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I'm 25, I have 2 children under 6 and I'm in a position where I can comfortably be a SAHM. Yet even with the 'free time' on my hands I'm really just plodding along in life with no dreams, interests or hobbies.

I've definitely 'lost myself' since becoming a mum. Everything revolves around the kids or the house. Which I suppose is pretty normalish?

I used to ride horses a lot not in the last 10 years. I used to love reading but haven't read a book in years, I just don't seem to be able to get in to anything. They're the only real 2 things I've ever had much interest in.

What are your hobbies or interests? How do you discover one?

I have 2 under 4 and the very idea of hobbies seems daunting.

When do people have the time? Are they SAHMs who can do things during the day? Or are they working outside the home but trot off at 8pm to do something?

I'm working, fairly high intensity job, and at the weekends the kids demand all our attend, not to mention the birthday parties etc.

When do people actually do these things????!

It did mean that the weekends we rarely had all day together for family time, which I know a lot of people would find strange but it didn't bother us

See that would bother DH and I.

And actually one of my colleagues who is in a running club seems to spend little time with her DH as they do alternative evenings at their hobbies, she does Tuesdays and Thursdays and he does Mondays and Wednesdays and then she does 5ks at the weekend. It really works for them but I'd hate that.

I turned my passions for playing and arts/crafts with the children into my career! I retrained and now work in a preschool. I now spend my evenings on Pinterest planning activities or thinking of things to do with them. Especially now mine are older and won't let me set up their toys anymore 🤣

I also read a fair amount, started off with teenage/young adult fiction when mine were younger and I couldn't focus for long periods.

We as a family are pretty geeky so watch lots of superhero, fantasy and anime. And been going to comicons where we dress up and collect bits that we display.

Having children definitely helped me realise I had more hobbies and passions that i thought!

Elspeth I work 30hrs and do shift work including weekends - so does DH. So I’m often around in the day or he is.
My gym has a crèche too
If DH and I are off together I can get up mega early (as DD gets up at 6 anyway 🤢) and go to the gym.
DD is 4 and into crafts so if I fancy doing some painting she will “join in”
Not so easy when she was two I think at that age I only really got to do hobbies when she was in bed but she plays alone now on and off
A lot of mums like knitting or crochet cos you’re sitting there in the same room as them while they play.
I probably couldn’t get the sewing machine out as she would try to get involved and the cat has also been known to get tangled up in it