AIBU to want to not always have to call groups of people over

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Mommaof2x · 14/04/2019 22:19

I invited two family members to come over on a future date for lunch and after a few hours one of them messaged if should she ask another two family members to come over too.

AIBU to think I’m more than capable to invite people over to my own house, I don’t need her to do it for me and I didn’t even want the others over and now I can’t exactly say that so now they are coming too.

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kaytee87 · 14/04/2019 22:22

On the face of it yanbu but you might want to just say who the relations are for clarity. I don't think it will 'out' you

LemonSqueezy0 · 14/04/2019 22:28

Just say 'I'm really looking forward to seeing you two, so lets arrange another get together at a later date for all /more of us ' how can they argue with that?

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Mommaof2x · 14/04/2019 22:32

The person she wanted to call was her sister and her husband, so it’s offensive if I said no. I just wanted a small thing not stand in the kitchen all day, plus sometimes I just think do I always have to see you two together.

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kaytee87 · 15/04/2019 07:40

So the people she wanted to invite aren't even relatives of yours?

LynnTheseAreSexPeople · 15/04/2019 07:45

Depends if the other relations will feel left out I guess. Are you all siblings? But obviously you're right that it's your house so your decision but often with families gatherings are more casual so it's fine to say 'op can I bring aunt marge too?'. Couldn't you have said you only want a small gathering so you'll catch up with the others a different time?

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Mommaof2x · 15/04/2019 14:17

it was mils birthday, they all already celebrated without us, we were calling mil over to give her present from us, had to call 1 sil because she lives with mil... I just think you guys already celebrated without us so why do you all have to be there when we do something for her, if I thought it was going to be call them all I would have just visited her with a present- it’s easier.

And just generally sick of sil always making plans for my house, once she organised a girls night out and told everyone to go to mine before hand without even asking me.

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AryaStarkWolf · 15/04/2019 14:22

And just generally sick of sil always making plans for my house, once she organised a girls night out and told everyone to go to mine before hand without even asking me.

Oh that's very cheeky, also I think the situation in your OP is cheeky too, it's your house, say no

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