To be so stressed about work tomorrow

[Missmummy88]

A lot of back story but in short- I work for a small business in The tech industry. There are 5 guys and 2 ladies (myself being on of them). I have been very close friends with the other girl - lots in common, developed a lovely friendship. Just after Christmas said girl started dating one of the co owners of the company. A few weeks back, I received a WhatsApp on Sunday saying she was leaving due to her partner trying to sleep with me. Which is utter madness. Turns out she had accessed work e mails between the two of us, on in September (prior to them dating) said something a long the lines of “always here if you need a chat” followed by a wink. My response was thanks. That was that. She took that comment and told the entire company via company message board that she was leaving due to her partner trying to sleep with me. Fast forward a few weeks of her being off Ill - and having met up for a coffee to clear the air, we are all ok. I still dearly like her. Her and manager have rekindled relationship.

I’m just so stressed about being in the office. Tomorrow it’s just them and I in the office due to staff holidays. We have a small office and all sit around a central table.

It’s not like like a large corp where I can get my head down and hide. I have no ill feeling towards either of them. I just hate drama, or awkwardness. And I have been so stressed today at the thought of going back. I’ve been stress eating chocolate, desperately looking on job boards - despite not wanting to leave my job.

What shall I do?!?

and having met up for a coffee to clear the air, we are all ok. I still dearly like her

Er....... are you being serious?

She took that comment and told the entire company via company message board that she was leaving due to her partner trying to sleep with me

She needs to publicly apologise. Im afraid I cant even understand why she is still employed.

Tomorrow it’s just them and I in the office - she needs to apologise. A lot.

The co worker has acted very unprofessionally - firstly in accessing work emails of her partner, secondly in spreading rumours. I think you should ask her to issue an apology to all of the people that she sent the other message to. If I were you I'd write it for her - something along the lines of "a few weeks ago I mistakenly accused my partner of impropriety. I have since realised I was mistaken. We are working on our relationship. I apologise profusely to [you] for dragging her into this."

I agree she needs to apologise and I’d be very wary of keeping a close friendship with her, she can’t be trusted, she loves the drama too much

Jesus, is this for real? She needs to publicly retract that. And fast, has she planned to?

She's the one who should be worrying, not you. You've done nothing wrong, and although her message was out of order, she didn't suggest you did anything wrong, rather, that he did. Hold your head up, let them play their silly drama - and get the apology that you're clearly owed.

She needs a disciplinary for gross misconduct.

She has been getting help for mental health - which she obviously needed - so I feel really sorry for her in a way. I am not a threat to her in anyway.

And although I’ve forgiven her, I feel like - how do I talk to him and her? I’m so stressed!

Be polite and professional . I would expect an apology . Don’t be friends with her , too much drama , it isn’t you who should be worrying but them .

I am not a threat to her in anyway.

But she is a threat to you, or at least your job.

How long before she uses her position as the boss's girlfriend to have you fired? I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her. I'm afraid you're being way too trusting and naive in this regard.

How did it go op ? X