Is he trying to make me jealous or just stating facts without thinking too much into it

[Hungrymamabear]

Started seeing someone. An old flame from the past to be exact. No sexual stuff as of yet which I'm fine about. We talk over phone a hell of a lot, average of 4 hours a day, sometimes in one go. We were talking about past ect and he brings up that he used to go round to his exes sit with her family have dinner together ect. He went in saying her dad shook his hand, her mum adored him ect. can't help but feel gutted and jealous because I never had that with him and he knows that's what I want now. Officiallness (is that a word?)

I don't understand why this bothered you surely this is normal - going round to your DPs parents for dinner? Doesn't everyone have these kind of discussions when they first start dating???? The fact that this has bothered you is more worrying, your either very jealous or he's made you insecure for some reason.....either is not great for a relationship.

If you were together so long, even if it was on/off, how come he never came to dinner with your parents? Seems a random thing to be jealous of, and no, I wouldn't say he's trying to make you jealous. You've got a dc, you've both had relationships. If something like that is making you feel insecure I'd say there's more to it and to keep things moving slowly. I couldn't be doing with the four hour calls though, and definitely don't let him move in!

So you've already agreed to him living with you?
When his contract finishes, will be be out of work?

Has he met your child?

How long have you been back on, and why is it not a physical relationship?
Who reinstated contact, and why?

It seems sketchy Hungry but there's not really enough detail tbf

Why would you move this guy in with your kids?

I've just read the updates. You're very convenient to him @Hungrymamabear. That isn't good enough, the two of you need to focus on building a functional relationship, both getting jobs and taking any intro to the kids very slowly, YEARS slowly. Push him to slow down and build something real, if he won't then I hope you'll see that he's using you. You have children, please don't put them through difficult and confusing situations unnecessarily.

moving in with you when you've only been back together 5 minutes, oh, i don't think so. that doesn't sound good, he'll feet under the table and think you've adopted him. what's the rush when you aren't a 'couple' so to speak ?
will he still be caring for his dad if he moves in with you ?

We talk over phone a hell of a lot, average of 4 hours a day

Not normal. AT ALL.

Red flags all over the places before we get on to your “jealousy”.

Firstly - totally weird to be jealous of this unless you have a really dysfunctional relationship with him.
Secondly HOW did you get to 7 years and not meet each other’s families??? How little on and how much off must there have been???

Your relationship history sounds unhealthy.
He still doesn’t sound like a functional my adult (ie doesn’t have somewhere to live) and you aren’t really in a relationship (let alone a healthy one )

Buuuut...you’re intent moving him in. Yeahhhhh #GreatLifeChoices

You sound desperate for a relationship - any relationship, you really need to take a step back.
You are spending the equivalent of a part time job (28 hours a week) chatting to this guy.
Get an actual job and focus on your child and your emotional health. You might actually meet someone you can have a normal relationship with who isn’t looking to mooch of you and make you feel insecure.

I'm not moving him in! Obv he wants to see me. He hasn't met my kids yet but has spoken to them on phone. He's talking about long in the future moving in together not literally moving in with me!

Ah, future faking and love bombing with the long phone chats. Been there. Run.