Dh...

[dust11]

So I tell dh this morning that I have booked a drs appointment for this week.

Something I'm a bit worried out. More than likely nothing but still would like to chat a chat with gp.

Explain this to dh....he's sat on his phone and does not look away from his phone. He's not listening.

I end up just getting up and walking away.

A couple of minutes later he follows me into the kitchen and asks about my appointment and why I'm going etc etc.

Aibu to be annoyed he didn't even look up off his phone?

He knows I'm in a mood.

Sorry my spelling is awful.

Something I'm worried about

*Would like to chat with gp about
*

And now rather than dealing with it and talking to him you're on here.....

People in glass houses......

This happens to us a lot. Dh has 'work' on his phone which trumps all!

I just want to know wether it would annoy anyone else or if I'm over reacting?!

If it annoys you then don't post. Simple.

It’s a bit rude of him yes but unless this is a regular thing from him I wouldn’t let it ruin my day.

It's poor form that he didn't look up.

If I'm talking to someone about something important and they don't look up now; I just stop talking until they do. Depending on how long that takes and their response; I either talk again or presume they aren't interested and don't tell them.

@NoSauce yeah it's quite regular. Just feel as if I don't matter at the moment.

My other half does this all the time, At least he asked you in the end ? Mine don't

He was probably zoning out on his favourite place to do that, like we all are on here. It was poor form not to look up straight away but we all do it from time to time don't we? I know I'm guilty of it.

Since you're here, why don't you share with us what's on your mind re your appointment since I'm sure that's the thing that's really underlying this frame of mind you're in?

If it annoys you then don't post. Simple

Bit rude OP.
If it happens often then talk to him and tell him!

It's just a constant thing. Ds was poorly last week and has been sick all day, didn't listen to a word I said when he came in and just started banging on about how he had a headache.

I could go on and on with examples. It's like no one else really matters.

Time to sit him down and tell him that his behaviour is getting you down.

It probably is. Dh does have a condition that I am there for him 110% for. I have a 7 month old that barely sleeps through the night and this morning I got up at 5.30 to get dh medication.

I do all sorts but when I even mention about being unwell, I just don't matter and that's what I'm fed up with. I get no help with the baby at all either.

so really dust this has nothing to do with this one particular incident but is an ongoing issue in your relationship. why are you getting up at 5.30am to get his medication? why cant he get it himself or are you just his servant?

I think you need to sit down alone first off and have a think about what you are doing to enable his behaviour as in could he not get his own medication. Then sit down with him and tell him how undervalued you feel and that all the things you have been doing for him - running around after him - are going to stop. And then mean it. Stop being his servant and allowing him to take you for granted.

@mummymeister he can't get up due to being in pain. I have to do it. And that's fine. But it's not a two way thing in our marriage.