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AIBU?

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to be so angry with him? What happens now?

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rhubarbandvanilla · 13/04/2019 15:51

My partner got pulled over today from driving without insurance. He claims he thought it had renewed automatically last April and was due at the end of this month... but it hadn't and he's been uninsured for a year.

The police then checked his tax and MOT, and he hasn't done either of those for THREE years!

The car has been taken and he needs to provide evidence of insurance, his logbook and license to get the car back. He also has to wait for further info about being called to a hearing. There's a fine for no MOT.

What on earth happens now? How can he get his car back when there's no tax or MOT? Will he lose his license? He has no other points.

OP posts:

SilverySurfer · 13/04/2019 19:11

MOTs are also not needed for the first three years, not only for brand new cars.

Wrong.

I think it is entirely possible that it was all an oversight

Don't be ridiculous he has had no tax or insurance or MOT for three years

Chippychipsforme · 13/04/2019 19:13

A month or two would be an oversight. Three years is being a dickhead.

caughtinanet · 13/04/2019 19:14

Why is it wrong to say that you don't need an MOT test until a car is three years old? That's correct.

JaneEyre07 · 13/04/2019 19:17

Do you have children OP that he's been driving?

That would end the relationship very quickly for me.

donquixotedelamancha · 13/04/2019 19:19

He's not lacking money, no debts, pays his way.

Are you sure? I often think the LTB response on a lot of threads is silly but this level of deception for so long (and being carried on) would be a big problem for me in a relationship.

I think it is entirely possible that it was all an oversight

It's possible, but that doesn't make it better. Unless there is some huge drip feed (moderate learning difficulties or similar) then either:

a) He's a man-child arsehole who takes no responsibility for his life (which presumably OP would have noticed).

b) He knew exactly what he was doing, is a selfish git, and thinks OP is a mug.

Aridane · 13/04/2019 19:50

Does he not have the MOT/service in a calendar either handwritten on an app? I do

Good for you - but clearly not applicable to the DP!

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 13/04/2019 20:04

I'd be furious, I was cross with DH a couple of years ago when he sheepishly told me he'd taken his car in for MOT on the tenth thinking it ran out on the 15th and it had actually expired on the 5th! I have tax set up on direct debit now so no need for reminders and the garage we use now sends a text and a letter for MOT. He's unlikely to get custody op unless he has previous, likely a ban, very large fine and a big chunk of community service/unpaid work

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 13/04/2019 21:10

Why is it wrong to say that you don't need an MOT test until a car is three years old? That's correct.

We are agreeing on that. However, havingtochangeusernameagain Sat 13-Apr-19 16:27:22 said something slightly different (that didn't make sense): "MOTs are also not needed for the first three years, not only for brand new cars."

runsforcake · 13/04/2019 21:38

The thing is, if he's managed to keep this a secret for three years... what else are you missing? Credit card debt that he didn't get round to paying? Secret wife who he didn't get round to divorcing? For me, this would be a massive breach of trust. YANBU to be angry.

Does he understand why you're upset?

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