Worst date ever ...aibu not to see him again?

[kingkel]

Last night was just beyond awkward.
Second time I met him.
He lives 10 mins from me so he suggested I walk to his place and we get a taxi into town for drinks.
I get there and he says his aunt and uncle and cousin and her boyfriend are also heading into town so we will share a taxi (first awkward moment )
Then in the taxi he says we might as well join them for a drink (couldn't say no as they all heard )
Then after 40 mins of awkwardness he says ok me and Kelly are going to another pub ...phew.
We have a drink and he's texting them to see where they are ..he then takes me to this pub and we sit with them for a hour.
I felt so uncomfortable,I barely know him.
So I left and went home.
Aibu here to think he shouldn't of done this?

That's terrible! And why did you have to walk to pick him up, as though he's a kid? I think he sounds as though he's always wanted a girlfriend and now thinks he's got one (ie you) and you can settle happily into married life with him immediately.

Why are you even asking? 😂

Enmeshed and codependent.
Can't function outside original family unit.
If you lived with or (God forbid) had kids with him, your life wouldn't be yours, you'll be expected to constantly be round theirs, paying homage.

Dear God, just run.

Dump him, Kelly!

All for the best. At least you have had a measure of this guy, at little cost to yourself. He's clearly a tosser - WALK.

same as above.

the guy sounds like he can't function outside his inner family circle.

I know a family that sounds a bit like this. Its my aunt and Uncle and their kids.

A date is a boyfriend/girlfriend immediately and expected to be part of the family. They go out together or to each others houses all the time, it is taken for granted that the new partner will be ok with this. Took years for one particular cousin to find a partner who was ok with it, she would see a bloke a couple of times and then he would run for the hills and she could never understand why! Her husband is a lovely chap but I suspect brought up by a somewhat overbearing mother as he just does as he's told, never seems to have a thought of his own. They seem happy enough!

Do you remember the episode of the Royle Family where all of Cheryls first dates where at Jim and Barbara's house? They are like that :o

How strange! I’d have left too.

I would probably message him and tell him why you don't want to see him again just so it knows what not to do in the future he can't seriously have done that knowing how awkward it would be he must be completely oblivious

Not great really but I would have just got to know them and joined in with the group.

But then I like chatting to people!!

#awkward 😂

Come on now Kelly

No don’t see him again!

That was your worst date ever??

UANBU to not see him again, but I think hanging off a cliff top by my fingertips - ok more of a small drop that a full sized cliff - it the pouring rain, covered in mud, whilst two hours into a four hour "gentle stroll in the countryside" was a better "worst date ever".

Nooooo! That's cringeworthy & oddly similar to an experience I had as a teen where my date told me he was taking me somewhere great as a surprise and it turned out to be his cousins house to meet the whole family! Run for the hills and never look back.

Ooh my goodness.

When I was out with a friend a chap I really fancied asked me to go to another pub with him. Friend said fine she would go & leave me to it.

Then discovered him mum, dad & sister were at the other pub & he wanted to introduce me to them!!

Needless to day friend & I went elsewhere!

Aibu here to think he shouldn't of done this?

Have. The word is Have, not Of.

Anyway, it wouldn't bother me. Sounds like you are quite shy?

This is no where near as bad as the YouTuber date from a few weeks ago though. And to be honest there isn’t really any reason it should have been awkward (unless his relatives are really socially inept). Don’t get me wrong it’s a bit odd but I don’t understand why a grown person would find this awkward.

If you have one ounce of self-respect, dump him.

Sharing a taxi, first drink with them maybe OK.

Meeting up with them again I would have found too much I think.

I met a guy who I got in touch with OLD at the food court of a shopping centre. On his profile it said he had developed an app and made a lot of money, which was true.
However he had spent the money on a nice anorak and some slacks. Reached into his shopper to retrieve a flask and offered me a cup of tea.
He was Roy Cropper.

A bit odd, but I would have gone along with it out of curiosity

Oh so the OP must be "shy" to not want to spend a SECOND date with half his family????? Omg only on MNet

God I had a first date who sat in silence while I told him funny anecdotes all evening. Was exhausting. He told the mutual friend what a great time he had and how he wanted to meet up again. Err don’t think so pal.

Sounds horrendous!! Definitely either send him a text saying you're not interested and why or is just ghost him if you don't like confrontation.

Just think of the time you could have wasted if you hadn’t found this out on your first date.