To even consider “sleep training” and how?

[Theredtoyphone]

I have a 6yo and a 1yo. Married but I’m the midst of issues and going to couples counselling. The 1yo sleep has probably been fairly typical up until now. When he woke in the night we’d cuddle him back to sleep and put him in his cot. Tried to avoid him crying so as not to disturb his brother.

In the past fortnight this stopped working. He wakes anytime from 11pm and will only sleep if being held by me or DH. Even when appearing to be sound asleep any attempt to move him results in screaming. Putting him in cot is impossible, he screams, hits his head off the side, throws himself about. Cosleeping isnt ideal, he moves around a lot and I’m scared he’ll get trapped under covers or overheat and worried that as Im so tired that I’d not notice.

I’d always been “against” any kind of sleep training, but this is impacting my mental health and potentially going to be the nail in the coffin for our marriage as we’re both exhausted and biting each other’s heads off constantly.

AIBU to consider some kind of sleep training? What would I even do, he gets so frustrated at being put down and we have the 6yo to think about too.

Sounds like sleep regression, but the good thing is it should pass within a week or two.

I'd maybe try tough it out another few nights to see if it improves, but if you are suffering, then you definitely aren't being unreasonable by taking this approach.

Only you know how difficult things are, but you are definitely not being a bad mum by doing this

Thanks. It’s just so hard and I genuinely don’t know how to proceed. Anything involving crying will disturb my other child. I wouldn’t even mind the disruption if he’d go back down but he literally roars at us when he put him down now.

Could there be an underlying illness or allergy? If its really bad I'd maybe suggest a trip to the docs