DP has never really put in the effort to organise stuff together.
He doesn't go out with others much either but he's been out with work colleagues (once for an entire day of long distance travel and go karting) twice in the last few weeks. I can't remember the last time we did anything together.
If I bring this up with him he says "I've actually got something in mind" or words to that effect and pretends like he's organising some sort of surprise. Nothing ever happens though.
This time I've pointed out that not only is it harder to organise things now that I'm pregnant (I can't really think of anything we can do together that pregnancy doesn't stop me doing) but he always says he will do something and nothing ever happens.
I used to organise stuff but I stopped bothering when I realised it wasn't reciprocated and that hasn't changed either.
He reckons he's organised something for next week but it's a surprise and not to look at his mail as it will ruin the surprise. The thing is, he always says he will or has organised something and nothing happens so I just get left doing nothing anyway.
This week I took myself out with DS for the day and dinner after... He looked hurt when I said we'd eaten without him but I didn't realise he'd be back so early so took the initiative. I didn't want to sit inside, waiting for the precious other half to walk in, like a lemon having done nothing all day.
Do I do the same, making my own plans for next week, or do i risk doing nothing in the hopes he has actually booked something in? I've asked him which day twice now but he hasn't answered. He has read the messages though. I don't want to shit over his effort if he does do it but I also don't want to do nothing on the very little time we get off together.