Too hate the holidays..

[pansydansy]

I used to love having the kids at home during the holidays but dear god their killing me.

They've put me out of house and home.

The tantrums.

The shouts of "I'm bored"

The money spent trying to entertain them.

The day trips trying to sound all enthusiastic when your sick to the back teeth of seeing yet another pig/sheep/cow/ chicken/ horse 😩

The washing 😳

The toys everywhere.

The absolute mess until their in bed.

The fights.

And the worst thing is we're only 1 week down 🙈 feeling very jealous of my dh who's at work getting some peace and quietness 😬

It's hard work!

I'm always amazed by how many parents say they love the school holidays...they must have very well behaved children!

It’s only another week and your DH will hopefully be home for half of that. At least it’s not the summer.

I like the holidays too, though we can’t afford to do much so lots of national trust exploring and cold picnics for us! Still better than having to have everyone out the door by 7.15 though!

In general, refereeing the arguments is a pain in the arse I’m with you on that!

I use to love it! not having to get up and rush out the house for the school run, getting a lie in. now i hate it

What's the weather like where you are? Can you just put them out in the garden to entertain themselves?

I looooooove them.

But.

I only have one child. And now she's finally the right age that day trips are a pleasure and not hard work.

We have Merlin passes so are trying all the theme parks to compare the rollercoasters. I have forewarned her that we won't be buying souvenirs etc. So she knows not to beg me for stuff when we're out. That's what could really get tedious.

Also my house is mess because we've hardly been in it. Although nothing too big planned for the weekend so can catch up with the laundry.

Wait until the teens years. Then you win your money back. They lie in bed until midday, slope around not wanting to do anything and their only complaint is that there's not enough food

Mind you, my dd did spontaneously make a cake yesterday which was gorgeous.

Your time will come OP.

I use to love it! not having to get up and rush out the house for the school run, getting a lie in. now i hate it

Same! I moan when I'm having to do the school run but I think I'd rather do that 5 days a week then put up with this shit show.

Mil has taken them out for a couple of hours. I'm suppose to be catching up on all the cleaning I've missed this week but instead sitting with a bar of wholenut and a j20 scrolling through mn.

I'm so going to regret this tomorrow when the house is even more dirty and messing 🙈

Messy*

@Milicentbystander72 I have 3 teenagers lol 17,16 and 14. Tbf I've hardly seen them, they've stayed at friends houses, had party's, and 2 are at Alton towers today and the 14 year old is at Thorpe Park. Their no trouble it's the 2 little ones 😩🙈

I'm just grateful this thread reminded me we've booked an activity at the theatre for tomorrow and I'd forgotten!

We've had fun this couple of weeks, but the weather's been ok so it's so much easier.

@5foot5 they weathers been very kind this week. We've done parks, farms, adventure play grounds and walks with the dog. I'm so bored with it all though 🙈 the constant trying to distract them from killing each other "oh look there's a butterfly. Oh look at that big slide"

I'm so fucking bored! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I have 4 and no money.

It’s killing me, can’t wait to go back to work next week

I'm exactly the same @Sawyershair we have 4 and I'm totally skint. DH has changed from weekly to monthly pay and it's not due until 2 weeks time.

We've been on a few country park type walks (lots of moaning and a couple of tantrums!) other than that, what else can you do for free? They are costing me a fortune in extra food and electricity too.

And to make the best of it I dropped my phone out the window trying to juggle a thousand and 1 things all at once 😩 my screens all smashed and I can barely make out the key pad to type 😥

@ems137 have you looked at what your local library or children's centre have going on this holiday? Mine have loads of things to do but there mostly on early and getting out the house here by 9 is just not happening 🙈

I'm always amazed by how many parents say they love the school holidays...they must have very well behaved children!

I'm always amazed at how many parents don't like spending 13 weeks out of every 52 with their children.

Whats the point of having children if you don't like their company?

I'm always amazed at how many parents don't like spending 13 weeks out of every 52 with their children.

Whats the point of having children if you don't like their company?

Get off your high horse.

In 11 years, I've had a grand total of two nights away from my dc.

The only time I'm not with them is when they're at school.

People find the holidays tough for lots of reasons...

Lack of outside space
Lack of family support
Finances
Special needs

For example, a well off mum with lots of friends, family, huge garden and nt dc will probably enjoy the school holidays more than a single mum who's skint, living in a tower block and has dc with additional needs and lack of support.

@BlueSkiesLies

@formerbabe then that isn't a 'school holiday' issue.

It is a 'raising children in a generally shit life circumstance' issue and the evenings and weekends must be just as shit.

I don’t mind them. The six week holidays drive me nuts but I can deal with 2 weeks. Key is to plan activities in advance. I use the Hoop app and find fun local activities (most thankfully free or very cheap). We’ve been to a local art gallery, museum, the library and castle this week to do crafts/activities.

Make them tidy up!

My dc are 10,8 & 6

Mon - Park 1 - reasonably fun but chilly

Tues - Friends house - good fun but with a total of 6 kids it was noisy & a few squabbles broke out from time to time

Wed - Washed the car in the morning (which went down really well!) Park 2 in the afternoon

Thurs - Beach - Fun but windy

Fri - Washed my DMs car - less fun but ok (they're now watching tv)

The main part of each day has been ok but all the prep involved makes me feel worn out!

Picnics, extra clothes for after the beach, remembering footballs, kites, coats, sun cream, cold drinks, flasks etc!!

I've started getting them to earn some pocket money such as changing their beds, running the hoover round even doing their homework, music practise, reading their books mostly at 10p a task lol.

DH has next week off yay!!!

BlueSkiesLies

You said this...

Whats the point of having children if you don't like their company?

I'm making the point that parents who dislike the holidays or find them tough don't feel that way because they don't like their children's company.

I love the school holidays. I am frustrated and sad that I can't have 2 weeks off to play with DD. I take as much time off as I can with her but she is an only, 8 years old and an absolute joy to spend time with (most of the time!)

@BlueSkiesLies get off your high horse. Evenings and weekends are more bearable as it's for a shorter period. Holidays are extended and can be exhausting. You can enjoy spending time with your DC whilst finding it hard to spend 13 full weeks with them trying to entertain them.