to not go on the trip :(

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My family are gonna kill me.
I'm doing a professional masters 50:50 work/uni
I have sooooo much work to do, 1 essay due on monday and the 2nd essay due on the 28th which I havent even started. I also have another report to write due for mid May.
I am drowning in work and procrastination.
DH is taking the kids to Cornwall tmw and for the week., its MIL's 70th, shes rented a big house somewhere nice.. I'm supposed to be flying down on wednesday, its all booked etc. We are due back on Easter Monday. I can't take work with me, I'd not do anything and would spend the time feeling guilty.
AIBU to not go? They are all gonna hate me and I am going to feel rubbish sat here on my own for the week. I have never been to cornwall :(
But at least I could get my work done.
The flight wasnt that expensive, I could suck it up but would feel miserable.
DH keeps saying he'll help me get organised so i can come, but hes not helping and I'm stressing out.

Tbh you sound stressed and like a break would do you good. Give DH a list of stuff he needs to do to allow you to go. You can work at airport and on flight, then try to relax and enjoy when you get there x

Hi OP,

I know it’s tricky to set aside work time when you’re on holiday and seeing family, especially for a big occasion like this, but it seems a shame to miss out.

Could you get a plan together with your DH about how it could all work? For example, could you put in some work from the early morning until, say, lunchtime while DH or other family members look after your children? (Has he told you anything so far about how he’s planning to help you?)

Also, would it be an option to book some annual leave from work (or study leave if possible, as your master’s is being done through work) to be able to spend more time on your assignments?

I am in the same boat trying to juggle uni work, shift work, house work, children, dogs... lots of empty promises from DH... I broke out in psoriasis and spent mother’s day crying, I do feel for you. I finish in 2 months and it really can’t come quick enough...

I really wouldn’t give backword on your trip with your family tho, it’s so important and I think will cause bad feeling and it will he remembered forever. Instead, I would set aside blocks of specific time to do work on laptop... I literally say now 4 hours Thursday 10-2 etc. Surely they’d rather have you there with a few strings rather than not there at all xxx

I cant take any annual leave as its dictated by my course :( it's reknown for being such a hard year :( but weve know about it and the trip for a while, but tha5lt doesnt help me as I'm such a last minute stress head. MIL will be outraged if I dont come. But yeah maybe taking the laptop is the way forward. Good idea xx

If you don't drink in the evenings you could probably get up early and do some work while everyone else is having a lay in and your DH sees to the children?

Bust a gut and do as much as you can possibly squeeze in before Wednesday

70th birthday is a big deal and I assume this trip was planned a while ago, so I think it would be a real shame to pull out