Stood up by baby group mum

[Raggerty54]

I don’t know her well. We’ve only spoken twice. We were chatting yesterday in baby group about this free baby event taking place today. Some of the other ladies I’m friendly with were going. After the other ladies left, I was getting ready to leave while explaining that I won’t be going to said event as I can’t drive- I didnt fancy going too much anyway (it’s difficult to get there via public transport). She kindly offered to take me as she was going anyway and we live near each other. We swapped numbers and she said she’d call me at 10:30am today.

The event starts at 10:30. 10:30 came and went. At 11 I texted her asking if she was still going. She didn’t text me back until 11:45 and her reply was “hiya, no I’m not going now. My friend invited me around hers instead”. No apology for not letting me know etc.

AIBU to be a little hurt and confused? It seems very rude to me. I’m annoyed too because the baby was supposed to go to my mum’s today so I could give the house a good clean. I thought trying to make a friend was more important. Why do you think she would do this?

Yee i would say that was rude. But now you know what's she like and where you stand. I personally wouldn't bother with her again. I was befriended by a new neighbour who asked my children over for a play date with hers, at 130pm the next day. The next day came and after a few messages she eventually messaged me back after 6pm. She said she went out with friends instead and her phone went flat?! She obviously forgot that she added me on face book, so I actually saw her updates and pictures of her pub lunch with friends!! This taught me an important lesson, to not do her any favours...ever! She soon had another baby and asked for favours with school drop off/pick ups. I said no (I have done it for other neighbours). She ended up moving away (back home) as she wasn't being supported enough!

Perhaps she’s not so bothered about making friends as you are, which is obviously a shame from your point of view, it’s always disappointing to be let down and doubly so if you’re feeling a bit isolated at home with a baby.

They’ll be other occasions and better people, OP.

I’m not too worried about not being friends with her. Me and 3 other ladies at baby group have gone for a coffee this week and have arranged to meet again on Monday. I think she could be a little jealous? I was going to ask her to join us but I won’t bother now (though I’ll still be friendly).

The event was on for 3 hours and you could drop in whenever. It was more for toddlers but those of us with younger babies were encouraged to come along, it would be a bit long from start to finish as all our babes are around 2-4 months.