A little back story: I am married, separated 2.5 years with no chance of reconciliation, we were together for 17 years,. We have 2 kids, the split was amicable and we co-parent very closely. Obviously, having kids makes me cautious about dating.
Every couple of months I go online and chat to men on a dating website, then I realise quickly that the men that I've been in contact with are either weird, creepy or not for me then I log off and carry on with my life until I get lonely again and try OD again. I have been on 3 dates with 2 men since I have been single but they weren't for me.
Anyway....2 weeks ago I log on again and someone catches my eye. He is (according to his profile) 44, his picture shows him to be an average build, the type I find attractive. His profile is written as if by a female colleague and comes across as humorous and also says he has a 6 year old. I'm 41 and it 'ticked my boxes', so we started to chat and then spoke on the phone and agreed to meet.
We met last weekend and, well, he looked older than 44 and had an obvious beer belly which was not in his profile pictures. He was not attractive to me, at all, in fact he reminded me of one of my friend's dads. We got on well, had a laugh, but no chemistry on my side. Then as we were talking he said that he had been off that site for 3 years and when he logged on his old profile was still there. Then he says that his child is actually 11 not 6. He didn't say anything about his age and I didn't really think about it at the time. But that night in bed it hit me, so the profile info and pictures are actually 5 years old! He must be 49/50 not 44! That does explain a lot. I have nothing against 49/50yo men, my ex is 50 this year. But to so blatantly use an out of date profile and old pictures of yourself?!
We are supposed to be going out tonight for dinner and I really don't want to go. So my AIBU or WWYD is, do I just ghost him or reply or what? I was thinking of logging onto my profile and write something about people using old profiles and pictures but that feels a bit pointless and passive aggressive?!