I'm young and have a DD1 and DS5. DS is in school. Partner works full time, away, so pretty much everything to do with the kids im doing myself. I'm unemployed as such (quit my job whilst pregnant as the company was awful) but I'm a carer for my DM who is part paralysed, she has speech difficulties and mobility issues so I cook, clean, and help with hospital appointments as well as anything else she may need. I'm happy doing this, she did everything she could for me growing up. My Grandmother has also been needing me more for help with cooking, cleaning, shopping and appointments and now most days Im out early in the morning with DD, dropping DS off at school, caring for DM and my grandmother, picking DS up, then by the time the day is done I get very little time for myself.
Me and DP are happy to leave things like this, I dont know how I'd fit an "actual" job into my life or afford nursery fees for my DD. Family have recently been bombarding me with questions of when In going to return to work as I'm young and cant have a big gap in my employment history. It's getting me down and worrying me that I will struggle to find a job when the time comes (I was hoping to wait until DD qualifies for free hours) as my grandmother's health deteriorates she needs me more.
I was thinking of doing an evening college course but id struggle for childcare. I was just wondering if anyone else feels like they're looked down upon because they are caring for family, and not actually "working" as a carer iyswim. It's making me so paranoid that ill never get back into work.