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Teacher accusing DD of faking illness on school trip

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hayleybeach · 10/04/2019 13:44

My 12 yr old DD in Yr 8 was on residential school trip and felt faint (not had much to eat and just came on the day before Sad)

She told a female teacher who supported her and alerted staff at the venue who also helped her recover.

Then her form teacher arrived and he accused my DD of faking her illness. Told her he was having none of it and get back to the activity!

He was also overheard saying he was "f*ing angry" and that he wouldn't let her go on another trip planned for next year. As you can imagine I was fuming when I heard.

I'm trying to be rational and calm. She doesn't want me to speak to him or school, but he clearly wasn't providing a duty of care towards my DD and wasn't being professional in front of others. What would you do?

OP posts:
chickenalapesh · 10/04/2019 15:31

@LadyRannaldini 👏

teletubbies123 · 10/04/2019 15:38

A catholic school hires a teacher who cant read or write. A teacher can have the qualification and all the training they need and still be poor at teaching. That's why we have ofsted and school results published.

teletubbies123 · 10/04/2019 15:39

Or another day, another spoilt brat. Not nice, is it?

Passive aggressive attitude to have towards a child are you a mother yourself.

FaithFrank · 10/04/2019 15:42

I wouldn't do anything. No harm came to your dd.

I doubt she will be banned from next year's trip. The school have not said anything, it's only a rumour. In all likelihood everyone will have forgotten about the episode by then.

HJWT · 10/04/2019 15:44

I would personally say something, a male teacher is punishing a female student for being on her period, why would she fake an illness on a trip she wanted to be on Hmm

HaventGotAllDay · 10/04/2019 15:48

Maybe the OP should go in and clarify the episode.
It's probably as pps have said
dd feels faint
dd gets looked after by teacher
dd gets fussed over by friends
dd doesn't feel faint anymore and is seen joshing with friends
other teacher says, "can we please get on now?"

Cue am-dram antics and mammy-fuming.

No, I wasn't there. Neither was the OP.

supersop60 · 10/04/2019 16:05

It sounds like she was helped by some members of staff and the form teacher came along later. I can't understand why he would be angry (annoyed/irritated maybe), and it's highly unlikely she would be banned from future trips. Drinking, smoking, stealing, vandalism on a school trip - now that would get a ban. Not feeling a bit faint.
It will be ok.

Original poster
hayleybeach · 10/04/2019 16:13

DD has never been a drama queen and is very rarely ill. So when she is I tend to not dismiss it. Her friends were not around her at the time. It was just venue staff and female teacher who were with her - so no audience to play to.

Her periods only started a few months ago and she's still getting used to the cramps and coping with those new feelings in her body. The remarks were overheard by other children not my DD. It's interesting that some comments have put a dramatic spin on the turn of events and are surmising about what could have happened. As pointed out the only people that really know that were those present.

Perpsonally, I'm not a "drama llama" and I've no need to "calm myself". Have I gone in all guns blazing? No, really not my style. I'm a teacher myself and would have dealt with a sick child in a different way, that's all.

The main thing for me is that DD is well and doesn't want me to bring it up so I'll respect that and I won't. I've learned something too. It'll be an interesting next parents' evening.

Appreciate all your advice - really helped me decide what to do. I'll be off now, and thanks again.

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Missingstreetlife · 10/04/2019 16:15

He shouldn't swear. I would mention it as part of a bigger picture

ShartGoblin · 10/04/2019 16:30

Not remotely the subject of the conversation but it was shortly after my periods started at a similar age that I started feeling faint regularly. It turned out I was slightly on the anemic side and it worsened around that time of the month.

Thegoodthere · 10/04/2019 16:51

Shit teachers do exist, you know. I would complain.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 10/04/2019 17:06

Op’s dd doesn’t want her to approach the school at all. There may or may not be good reason for that.

BoneyBackJefferson · 10/04/2019 18:23

teletubbies123
That's why we have ofsted and school results published.

Neither of which, at this time, are fit for purpose.

BoneyBackJefferson · 10/04/2019 18:24

hayleybeach
I'm a teacher myself and would have dealt with a sick child in a different way, that's all.

but the problem is that you weren't there.

Ninkaninus · 13/04/2019 21:58

So a Male teacher who has absolutely no clue about female biology is going to lord it over a female student who is dealing with getting used to having periods, and tell her she’s faking illness?

Twat.

I’d be complaining, for sure.

Ninkaninus · 13/04/2019 21:59

And yes, feeling faint is quite possibly connected to anaemia - women lose a lot of iron through blood loss during periods.

Abbazed · 14/05/2019 19:11

She may have pernicious anaemia

Drogosnextwife · 14/05/2019 19:46

Another day another man telling a woman /girl to get over the symptoms of her periods (when she's probably not had them for long, so still getting used to them) then a loads of woman backing him up. Nice!

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