My friend Alice have known eachother for years. We are close but not exceptionally so . Alice has had a hard life . She has a dysfunctional family upbringing, lost her beloved father , has no contact with mother or siblings. She is very independent of them but very needy of friends and partner . Who is kind and sweet and quiet in herself . She works hard but is disappointed with the way her life has taken her. She works in a dead end job , with low pay and no prospects . She is in a flat share and has very few of us as a group of friends. She says she cannot afford any past times or hobbies, doesn’t holiday or go to cinema/ theatre/ concerts as she can’t afford them . Sometimes she does extra jobs . All of this information is from her and he words .
My aibu here is whether I am a bitch for getting utterly fed up of her moanong and whinging about her life. Despite being so sweet and nice , she is very hard to please and is one of those people who ‘ is never happy’ . What many people consider small issues become huge issues and her mood drops for sometimes days at a time . I try to support, encourage, listen , help but it is met with ‘ poor me’. Now I know and am sensitive to the fact that she has had a hard life . No question but she seems never to try to improve it for herself. Her experiences with men would put the hair standing on the back of your neck . She has little self esteem and allows people to treat her as they wish . More hardship. I am getting so tired and drained from it. I can’t seem to say or do anything that pleases Alice and Alice doesn’t seem to do anything to improve her lot. AIBU to be losing patience. I feel terribly bad but also at the end of my string with her