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To wonder what a BFP feels like?

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My2019Wish · 09/04/2019 17:15

Hi. TTC for a year now. Just want to hear some stories of the moment you got your bfp and how it felt. I can’t wait for that day myself but would love to hear others experiences while I wait.

I imagine it just feeling like everything clicking into place and finally getting rid of that heavy feeling in your heart?

OP posts:

ValleyoftheHorses · 09/04/2019 20:28

Terrifying. It took so long and after 1 losses I was so terribly anxious it wasn’t a good time.
I was ok once he arrived

Eatmycheese · 09/04/2019 20:30

First was five years ago and a massive shock. I instantly felt different though and nothing was ever the same. It was a strange mix of utter joy and massive fear instantly. And like a tiny fragile cord was holding us together, especially when I nearly lost him at 7 weeks.
The second was three years ago on holiday and we had talked about trying for another. I drank what turned out to be my last gin and tonic for eight months as it was an undeniable positive.
My third BFP is now almost seventeen months and running around as I type. They suspect a failed twin pregnancy as I bled for two weeks then out of curiosity did a pregnancy test.

I hope you get to have your own experience soon.

jcq17 · 09/04/2019 20:39

I was hungover and just had the urge to test! Shoved it under my husbands nose to wake him up 😂
Very surreal and kept doing tests as we couldn't believe it happened.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 09/04/2019 20:45

Hi OP

I'm not sure if you want to hear this but i got pregnant straight away and it kisy knocked me sideways. I have health issues and I thought it would take quite a while. I felt sick and panicky and called my husband to tell him but couldn't get the words out as I was crying so much. I lived my life and in that second I realised life as I knew it was over and I totally panicked.

I think it that's probably quite unusual and I haven't told many people as I'm aware that people may have been trying for a while and might not want to hear it. But wanted to be honest and say it's not a positive experience for everyone.

I was in denial until the 20 week scan when it looked like a baby. I couldn't bear to tell anyone even my family, I did a lot of it by text as I kept busting into tears. Looking g back maybe pre natal depression pr maybe I just struggled to adjust but all fine now and I hope it all works out for you too

pisspawpatrol · 09/04/2019 20:57

To begin with I cried with relief and happiness that it was finally two lines on a test. Then I had an actual panic attack at how huge and monumentally different life was going to be, I was suddenly terrified!

pisspawpatrol · 09/04/2019 20:59

@AmIRightorAmIMeringue We tried for three years and I felt exactly the same as you, but I miscarried. I don't think it's unusual to panic.

Bambamber · 09/04/2019 21:02

First 2 was overwhelming joy, happiness and excitement.

My current pregnancy was almost a numbness, I felt like the whole weight of the world on my shoulders. And an overwhelming feeling of guilt and sadness that I wasn't happy and excited like my first 2 pregnancies. This bfp came first cycle after my miscarriage. I still can't lift the heavy weight from my heart

AnyFarrahFowler · 09/04/2019 21:03

I just felt really weird - like it wasn’t really happening to me. Bit of an out of body experience. Then happiness, once I’d got over the shock!

nokidshere · 09/04/2019 21:04

I got my bfp at 4am in the morning and I was totally shocked because we had been ttc for 15yrs and never had a pregnancy before. We were staying at the in laws but I snuck into the living room and called my best friend. I told DH when he woke up but we were too stunned to talk about it and drove the 2 hours home in silence.

Sparklingbrook · 09/04/2019 21:07

I remember doing the test, seeing it was positive, telling DH. But we were a bit shocked as it happened sooner than we thought it would.

Then we went to work so a bit of an anti climax. Everything had changed and yet we just got on with our day.

I think it took a while to sink in as I dodn't have any early symptoms.

GrumpySprout · 09/04/2019 21:15

Really hoping you get your BFP soon OP

We weren’t trying to conceive at the time that I got my BFP. I thought I was getting my period as I’d started spotting quite a bit (turns out I had a small bleed by the placenta, completely normal and disappeared after a few weeks).

When my period still hadn’t arrived DP went out to get a CB digital test. However, all of our local supermarkets were sold out! DP went to 5 different stores and in the end got an Asda own brand digital.

Took the test and got a positive which I didn’t believe. Quickly did a google and Asda’s own pregnancy tests are notoriously untrustworthy. So we went further afield to find a CB test.

Took that and got our BFP. I remember just feeling an immense shift in myself and the weight of the responsibility of what we were about to do. I was in disbelief.

We spoke for hours after, about how we couldn’t believe that all that was happening in my belly right then. I too also thought about all the other women who have gotten a BFP, the queen, my mum etc. It was so surreal.

The excitement kicked in very quickly later that day and we both flitted between terror and elation. It was an intense time but so very lovely.

LO is now 9 weeks old.

Wishing you lots of luck OP

Nnnnnineteen · 09/04/2019 21:19

I got my BFP after 7 years of trying. I think I did about 8 tests. By 14 weeks I had chronic ante natal depression and from 20 weeks on I was beyond upset. That continued until dc was born and it then morphed into post natal depression.

MissMooMoo · 09/04/2019 21:21

Dh was eating a full English and I ran towards him and flung the stick on the table.
We had been on holiday in the weeks before so had a lot of sex!
I ended up having a MC 2 weeks later and I was extremely emotional.
DS was conceived the cycle immediately after and it was bittersweet.

All the best

dementedma · 09/04/2019 21:25

Shocked and scared

Surfskatefamily · 09/04/2019 21:27

It took 2 years for me and oh. I got a bfp when i was alone and just it didnt feel real. Like we were going for fertility tests that month and i thought it wasnt going to happen for us.
I peed on about 30 sticks over the next few weeks to try to convince myself it was real.
When you get that bfp i hope you get this feeling. Its like magic

Jebuschristchocolatebar · 09/04/2019 21:27

With my first I Felt physically ill at the sudden thought of having a baby even thought we were trying and it was much wanted. I panicked and burst into tears. It was all good though. Good luck

Feb2018mumma · 09/04/2019 21:28

My husband didn't believe me, he said it was a false positive because I took it in the evening! I went to the shop and bought another and took it at about 4am becuase was so excited! Was just surreal for weeks.

Iheartlondon · 09/04/2019 21:29

Disbelief and shock here after 3 years of trying including several IVf cycles and loads of BFNs. Then elation, and then fear and then back and forward between the two for 9 months.
Crossing my fingers that you get your BFP soon OP.

2018isanewyear · 09/04/2019 21:30

I felt sooooo scared! After suffering a miscarriage and it taking another year, I couldn't believe it would end well. I have stared at so many blank tests I wasn't sure if I was seeing things! Still doesn't feel real but I'm going to have to get used to it because looks like it may actually happen this time.

Xyzzzzz · 09/04/2019 21:31

Took me 2 years after trying. I felt happy but also worried it was a false positive and then proceeded to buy more of different brands and test again and I kept getting BFPs and then confirmed by my dr.

QueenOfThorns · 09/04/2019 21:32

Mine was after 4 years of trying and what we’d decided was going to be our last cycle of IVF. I’d convinced myself that it would be negative again, then when the line did come, it was so faint that I had to summon DH to give me a second opinion! It was more of a than the big I’d always imagined!

This was followed by days of testing and the line never really getting any stronger, so we hardly dared hope until I went for a 6-week scan at the IVF clinic and saw a little heartbeat! Now I have a wonderful DD and it was all worth it, but I don’t think I ever really believed that I was going to be a mother until I held her for the first time.

Good luck to you, TTC is a tough journey and I wish you success

Nat6999 · 09/04/2019 21:38

I got my BFP after 2 MC, the first one I didn't know I was pregnant, just thought I was late & then having an extra heavy period, I didn't know I had been pregnant until I had lost it. The second one I got very weak positives but they never got any stronger & 6 days later started bleeding again. The BFP for DS I had been in a horrible mood for a couple of weeks, I was bad tempered & tearful, picking stupid arguments. I knew something wasn't right, I had a test in a drawer, didn't for one moment think it would be positive, I took it upstairs without telling DH & did the test. When it came up positive my first thought was "Oh fuck,what have I done" I went downstairs & just gave DH the test, he looked blank, I told him it was positive. I felt numb & scared, I rang my mum & told her, I burst into tears when I was telling her. It took me about a month before I accepted it properly.

Sparkles07 · 09/04/2019 21:54

I had been trying for two years with DS, and I wasn't late, but due on Boxing Day. Christmas morning I chanced an early pregnancy test, but got a BFN. Forgot about it, opened presents etc. In my rush to go start Christmas Day I had left test on top of bin. Went back to loo later and saw a BFP. convinced myself it was an evap line, and thought I'll test again tomorrow.
I never did test again I kept thinking my period will come any day anyway. And it never did, so I booked in with the midwife! So after two years, I still never got my BFP joy moment!! I hope you get yours soon and it's everything you've ever dreamed of.

YeOldeTrout · 09/04/2019 21:56

Scared.

Ginfizplease · 09/04/2019 21:59

My first was met with utter disbelief that IVF had worked. I was really ill in hospital st the time and was stunned. I had to keep it for myself til DH came to visit hours and hours later.

2nd time it was utter disbelief again only this time because we weren't trying and it was natural.

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