AIBU to expect people to have some patience with disabled/elderly people?

[SpriggyTheHedgehog]

Is it too much to ask that people have some patience and consider that some people might be a little slower than others?

I was in a department store,it was very quiet at the time, looking at some items when a woman came up to me, bellowed excuse,excuse me! In my face, with not a second in between excuse mes, and proceeded to barge past. Now I have a neurological condition that means that my brain processes a little slower at times, and it may take me a few seconds to hear and react but on this occasion I heard and saw her her instantly but she didn't even give me a second to step aside. She wasn't in a hurry either and continued to browse for a long time afterwards.

My disability is invisible, so she wouldn't know, but that seemed rude regardless of who she did it to. However it's far from the only experience I've had of people being abrupt and impatient. I try to be aware of what's around me but my condition can make this hard, and another disability means that I am a little slower at times when responding to instructions or packing.(If packing I usually sweep my stuff to the side if it's busy so that the next person can proceed) but is it really too much to ask people to understand that some people may need a little more time because of age and/or or Disability? I know that it can be frustrating, if you're in a hurry, and but I don't take that much longer to do things, and people with disabilities are allowed to shop too.

AIBU?

yanbu at all. But sadly I think people now are so focused on their own lives they rarely take a second to think about other people.

Yes. People are busy, and often selfish I agree, but I do wish that there was a little more understanding and awareness that there are probably people all around them with disabilities at almost any time in public, and that they deserve a little consideration.

YANBU, but I do find myself wondering if the woman in question also had a hidden disability. It's surely not usual in a quiet shop to yell "Excuse Me" and barge past someone rather than to look for an easier path, and definitely reminds me of the actions of a customer we have at work who has a learning disability.

It's possible that she did have a disability, though watching her with her children and listening to her if she had a learning disability, it was likely 'mild'. She was very well spoken and articulate.Personally I think that she was just a cheeky fucker with no patience but I'm obviously not the only person with invisible disabilities out there, so who knows?

I think it is very rude and shows bad character. Not everyone is like that. I’m sorry you met such a thoughtless oaf

I think there are plenty of inconsiderate shoppers around who are in too much of a hurry. However, it struck me too that there may have been something wrong with the woman who pushed past as you said she wasn't in a hurry. It's a difficult one OP as you say you have a hidden disability. I suppose the answer is that we all need to be more aware of hidden disabilities and just be more respectful to everyone.

It works both ways though. A former friend of mine suffers with MS and is in a wheelchair. She would holler 'Excuse me' (no 'please') at Schoolchildren at a High St bus stop. They wouldn't hear as they were happily chatting at a physically higher level than her wheelchair so she would then screech "Get out the bloody way" at them. They would look so shocked. She would then slag them off to me and I could explain until I was blue in the face that it wasn't their fault they didn't hear her. She would just say it wasn't her"s either.

She is appallingly rude to anyone in the wheelchair area on the bus who doesn't move from there quickly enough (and God help them if they aren't of white British ethnicity). She rides her wheelchair through a busy Asda car park without a care in the world with cars backed up in a queue behind her rather than ride on the pavements. She genuinely believes her rights surpass others and not that we are all equal.

Ahh she probably was just a nasty cow, there's certainly no shortage of them around.

That definitely isn't ok, BlackSatinDancer. Having a disability definitely doesn't entitle anyone to behave so rudely. Obviously if there's a reason for their behaviour that's one thing, but having a disability doesn't make anyone a saint. I know someone who sounds very like your friend and I can't bear her.