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To eat the cake??

70 replies

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 03:32

Me, ds (16) and sister were in a lovely restaurant/bar on Saturday. Lovely weekend in London together. We'd eaten our meal and I looked over and noticed that the people sitting on nearby table had gone. It (I assume) was someone's birthday as they'd sung Happy Birthday (well I assume they did, the band playing at the time were a bit loud!) and they'd had a cake. Well. There was some slices of cake left. On the plate with the knife that had cut the cake. ie not 'someone's plate' and I said I'm having some of that. Sister and Ds were absolutely appalled at the idea. But I went and got a little slice. It was lovely. Just a little supermarket cake but still very tasty!! They could not believe it. And it is still being mentioned!! Their problems were someone might have seen - it was quite quiet by then. I said 'you didn't see that!’ to next table - they weren't phased don't think they saw me till I spoke. Secondly that I took it off someone else's table. My view was they cut the cake. Left on the cutting up plate or like a platter. Similar to if it was in a buffet. No problem at all. But they would not see it!!

I said. Well I'm going to ask Mumsnet then - but only just had time to post.

WIBU?? It was cake!!!!!

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Picklypickles · 09/04/2019 12:23

ALWAYS eat the cake. Nothing sadder than wasted cake.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 12:29

@Picklypickles has nailed it. 😉

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HBStowe · 09/04/2019 12:31

My instinct is that this is somehow really cheeky / off, but I really can’t articulate why! So I am going to admire your chutzpah instead.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 12:37

Not cheeky. They had left. They weren't still sat there 😉 or I would definitely have asked first!! 😆

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MardyMavis · 09/04/2019 12:39

No way, peoples dirty hands could have been on it is it really worth catching the shits or something for a stale piece of Sainsbury's cake? That is a bit embarrassing to be fair.

HarrysOwl · 09/04/2019 12:41

I just....couldn't.

I'm far too socially conditioned to care what others would think.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 12:42

It wasn't stale. I saw it arrive intacto only half an hour ago. Dirty hands??? Are strangers' hands dirtier than people's you know? I can't imagine they're any dirtier than my 16 year old boy's 🙄

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HBStowe · 09/04/2019 12:43

I know, there’s no logical reason why it feels cheeky to me, but it does! Must be some weird social conditioning. I certainly wouldn’t care if someone made the most of cake I left somewhere as if I ever would so I don’t know why it feels wrong to me.

Aimily · 09/04/2019 12:45

It's cake! Who wouldn't want cake? I wouldn't have the guts to get my own slice but I'd have asked to to grab me some 😂

user1471596980 · 09/04/2019 12:52

The right thing would have been for them to offer it round before leaving. They got that wrong so you were just rectifying their etiquette mistake! Definitely eat the cake.

Rockbird · 09/04/2019 13:05

Yes, chatting to DH about this (who also wouldn't have taken it) we agreed that we would have asked the table next to us if they would like it as we were leaving.

NWQM · 09/04/2019 13:19

I've this image of half a dozen waiting staff glaring at from the kitchen door because that cake had their name on it.

Excellent ninja cake move OP!

Totally agree that left over desert cake would have been really wrong but helping to celebrate a birthday is practically neighbourly.

BabyDarlingDollfaceHoney · 09/04/2019 13:36

PinkHeart5914 the fox comment is spot on! I also agree with the PPs saying if anyone was going to go all urban fox on the cake crumbs by rights it should've been the kitchen staff / waiters, not you as a paying customer. If you wanted pudding you should've ordered one from the menu.

Lauren83 · 09/04/2019 14:17

I really wouldn't have done this and I would have been cringing if I was with you

SleepingStandingUp · 09/04/2019 14:23

Whilst I kinda admire your bravado, I do think it's rather cheeky / greedy to help yourself to food from another table, even if it is empty.

If they had a sharing gateau or sharing ribs you wouldn't have gone digging through their leftovers, so the type of cake really doesn't matter.

However, they're also wrong. who LEAVES CAKE BEHIND?????

shumway · 09/04/2019 14:27

Bonkers. And cringe.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 14:29

I do think type of cake does matter. Celebratory cake - for all to share.

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SleepingStandingUp · 09/04/2019 14:39

If that's the case, why didn't you walk over when they started singing, join in and wait for a slice?

costacoffeecup · 09/04/2019 15:13

If I'd had two large glasses of wine I would definitely have done the same.

bumblingbovine49 · 09/04/2019 15:29

I would have done exactly the same but only if I were slimmer. As an ahem ' larger lady', I be too worried about the inevitable ' look at the porker who can't control herself' thoughts. If noone had been watching however ......

BlackPrism · 09/04/2019 16:24

That's disgusting tbh. Were you drunk?

outpinked · 09/04/2019 16:28

I’d have been mortified but equally jealous I didn’t have the guts to do it myself Grin.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 16:29

No I wasn't drunk! I suppose I just like cake and hate waste. Not an issue as on the cake cutting plate. Not someone's personal plate. Wouldn't do that off someone's plate I didn't know

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bobstersmum · 09/04/2019 16:50

Now I feel like going to the local asda and tesco and buying the reduced celebration cakes just to stop cake being binned!

Siameasy · 09/04/2019 16:53

Yanbu the cake had been abandoned so it’s fair game.

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