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Piercing lip 16 year old

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:10

Didn't post before so sorry if it's repeated, shall I just go along with it, she's a very introvert and young for her age, August birthday in the first year of A levels x

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:14

My first post didn't register, I'm wondering y I should talk her out of it, she's desperate to have this lip piercing thing but I'm not sure, she does say to me she feels awful after going to sixth form, and she is sweet on a boy who loves the popular girls so I just think she is trying to get his attention

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Takethebuscuitandthesink · 08/04/2019 23:17

Tbh I think it’s better to let her crack on with it.

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:17

She says she wants it to be different? I'm worried because she is only just 16 and her peers have aLL sorts of piercings, nose, septum, eyebrows, is it just trying to fit in?

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NotSoThinLizzy · 08/04/2019 23:18

If she dosent like it she can take it out and it'll heal up

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:20

I have been accused of being a helicopter mum by my family before so just want some other peoples opinion on 16 year old girl getting her lip piercing

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madeofstarlight · 08/04/2019 23:20

I would just let her, if she changes her mind she can take it out. My friend had hers done for years throughout her teens and I never notice a scar/hole now she's taken it out.

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:20

Will it heal up?

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nancy75 · 08/04/2019 23:21

I had my lip pierced at 18 or 19, haven’t worn it for years now. Nobody knows it was there unless I tell them, Just keep telling yourself it’s less permanent than a tattoo

madeofstarlight · 08/04/2019 23:22

Yeah OP, it'll just heal over once she takes it out

nancy75 · 08/04/2019 23:22

My only concern would be that she gets it done at a proper piercing place & knows she will have to take care to keep it clean.

funnylittlefloozie · 08/04/2019 23:24

My 16 year old has all sorts of -stupid arse- piercings. She has lots in her ears, two in her nose, and one AWFUL one just below her collarbone. I hate them, but it is her body, due to some awful events she needs to feel that she has autonomy over it, so i just bite my (unpierced) tongue and let her get on with it.

She can always take it out if / when she gets fed up with it.

RubberTreePlant · 08/04/2019 23:25

You can't really stop her, realistically.

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:25

I suppose it's why she wants it done that bothers me, she is a very young 16 and her peers all seem older than her, I think she just wants to fit in and by doing this she thinks she will

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Broadstairs · 08/04/2019 23:25

If she changes her mind in the first year it will take about 3mo this for the hole/s to close. There will maybe be a little tiny scar.

Longer than that, a few years say, and it could take over a year for the holes to close I have ear piercing holes done twenty years ago that I have not had rings in for 15 years that have never healed.

You can get fake lip piercings you know...

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:26

Thanks for the replies X

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MrMeSeeks · 08/04/2019 23:27

I’d let her. My parents didn't so i got loads and hid them.

MrMeSeeks · 08/04/2019 23:27

If she hates it in years time she can take it out ( or my plastic or flesh coloured ones to hide them or jobs)

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:30

The piercing studio won't let anybody under 16 in without parental consent so I do think they are ok, also she asked us first if it would be okay, her Dad said yes, great, whatever, yet I'm still wondering what's behind it?

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nancy75 · 08/04/2019 23:33

I wouldn’t worry too much, lots of teens go through this kind of phase of weird clothes, piercings & crazy hair (I did it all) she’s at an age where she needs to find her own way & make her own mistakes, as we’ve said if she hates it she just takes it out

Stoptheworldandmelt · 08/04/2019 23:33

I got mine done at 18, wore it for two years then took it out. Its healed over and there's a tiny scar, but you wouldn't know if I don't point it out. Honestly my lip was my easiest piercing.

TheLuckDragon · 08/04/2019 23:39

Got mine done at 16 and still have it at 32!

PupsAndKittens · 08/04/2019 23:40

I believe that she has done the right thing and talked to you. Ultimately In most parts of the UK, their is not an official age where a person can get pierced without concent. However, from experience, most studios I know set the age at 16 ( however I do you know some that set it at 18, and a few that set it at 14- so it really does depend on the studios policy) can I ask why you don’t want her to have it?

she is sweet on a boy who loves the popular girls
Op, he sounds like a small minded Prat and I would advise for your DD to say away.

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:41

Thanks guys, I'm going with her tomorrow to have it done, like I said I'm not too happy about it but I want to be there to see it's done okay, I'm a massive worry mum, and worry about these things but she does seem to want to spread her wings so I'm going to go with her on this X

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canyoufeedthedog · 08/04/2019 23:45

I didn't want her to have it because most of her peers were having all sorts of piercings, septum, brow, it was a thing they are barely out of secondary school, my daughter is just 16 last August, she mixes with teens so much older than her,

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PupsAndKittens · 09/04/2019 00:01

@canyoufeelthedog fair enough, I think you are being fair with her, hope she likes it. Xx

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