I know envy isn’t a nice emotion so IABU. I just wish I had the gumption to say what I want. I’m ok at work (to my company’s credit, the culture is very open and there is no “grade-ism” so people can be candid without repercussion).
It’s relationships that’s the problem for me. I honestly think it’s an innate skill and the couples I know with the best relationships communicate frankly with each other. I asked one such friend whether she had ever been reluctant to say something to her husband (or ex boyfriends) because she feared the answer - she looked confused by the question.
I want to tell a friend how I feel about him. We’re very flirty, mostly via messenger. This thread isn’t a “does he want me?” one - Mumsnetters couldn’t say, they don’t know him or me. I’d just like to know what an assertive person would write and how she’d steel herself for a “no thanks” reply.