Do all relationships go like this? I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and I just don’t think he’s trying anymore.
He doesn’t want sex that much, he doesn’t want to go on proper dates that much, makes me feel like embarrassed if he pays for a meal etc, prioritises his friends and work before me.
I was in hospital last week and he had a go at me saying I was being stubborn and awkward because I asked him not to bring his mate into visiting hours (I was in pyjamas with IVs and oxygen, I hardly want it to be a lads gathering do I?). So in the end I settled it by saying just go out with your mate instead cause it was either he doesn’t come in at all or he comes in with his mate.
He never does little things, I used to bring him a hot chocolate when I pick him up or other little things like that, he’s done the same ONCE and reminds me of it an awful lot. Didn’t get me a card for Valentine’s Day even though I said the card is the most important thing to me because I’d rather have thoughtful words than a gift.
I just don’t get it. At the start I was completely swept away with it all, thought he was amazing, he treat me so nice. And now he’s comfortable and it’s boring and no effort put in. What would you do? I’ve brought it up with him and it’s pointless.