Is DP brother being unreasonable?

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Okay so here's the story.

I am close friends with one of DP's friends ex girlfriends. She's an absolutely lovely girl and has been treated like shit off DP's friend for a while so she ended the relationship some time ago.

Now this is where it gets difficult.. friend has ended up chatting to DP's brother who is also friends with her ex (they have the same friendship group). They weren't best friends but still friends.

They're really getting on and would like to move forward. DP and his mum have said BIL is being unreasonable and shouldn't even consider it.

Is he BU? Friends ex has no loyalty to her whatsoever and had already started meeting up with his ex GF and has taken her and her child out. He's round there every night and has told friend that he wants nothing more to do with her and that he's moved on.

I'm seeing two sides to the story but I am interested to see other's unbiased opinions on this!

Stay out of it. They’re relationships are their business. They aren’t cheating on anyone are they? Or deceiving anyone? Both free agents. It’s really not a big deal.

@ILoveMaxiBondi I'm finding it difficult as they're both coming to me asking what they should do!

What do I say? I don't want to be accused of influencing anything so I feel so stuck in the middle

Are they suggesting she scrutinises any possible dates to discover whether they know your DP's family and if so, she shouldn't see them?

Tell them they’re both adults (I assume?) and shouldn’t need permission to have a relationship with someone (which is really what they’re asking you for) it’s not your place to give them the nod, they have to decide for themselves.

I’m struggling to understand it to be honest, but I’d stay out of it. It sounds a bit intense, do nt get so involved.

I'm definitely going to distance myself. Yes they are both adults and can make their own decisions, just difficult because she's asking me for advice and so is he

I really think it would cause a shit storm with so many people though if they decided to pursue anything. He's saying he may start seeing her in secret but I can't see how they could keep that up

So the woman wants to go out with BIL. she used to date BIL's brother's mate. Said mate has moved on. Assuming all tgat is correct them of course woman is free to date BIL - why on earth not?

DP and mum need to back the heck off!