I clean for a man who's 80 (I'll call him Jim) and a lady a few doors down from him (I'll call her Dot) who's 87. Jim has a next door neighbour who has quite severe dementia (Marj) and is also 87. Marj's husband let's her wonder off, wear soiled clothes, doesn't take her to dr when needed etc. Both Jim and Dot are getting increasingly worried for her safety and wellbeing but don't feel like they can call anyone incase Marj's dh thinks it's them. Jim had a wife with dementia and he tried to give the dh some advice and told him about day centres etc but he doesn't want to spend any money on her even though he claims benefits to car for her and openly admits he has thousands in the bank. He was at Bob's when I was cleaning and the topic of getting a nurse came up and he said only if she gives her cyanide with her dinner. Marj asked him to take her to visit her mum (forgetting she passed away 20 years ago) and he said she's been burnt along time ago. Marj is constantly turning up at Dots and becoming aggressive when she asks her to leave and has at times had to take her out with her shopping because the husband goes out for hours on end and Dot is very caring and won't leave her on her own. On the shopping trip she wondered off and Dot had to go in and out of shops looking for her. When she told dh he said you should of just left her there and come home.
Dot is a very petite lady and so very kind that I worry if something happens to Marj she will blame herself even though its not her responsibility. She seems exhausted with it and has told dh but he doesn't listen and continues to use her. Also Marj is much bigger and gets aggressive. The way he speaks to hear is disgusting and abusive. Should I call somebody or stay out of it? Bob and Dot are both happy for me to ring for advice.