to wonder if anyone else 7 year old is like this....

[CheshireDing]

whinging ALL the time (it's like living with Kevin the Teenager), over dramatic (tiny mark on her hand earlier, there wasn't even a red line of blood FGS !), rude (I sent her to her bedroom today and she told me 'I hate you" (lovely).

When she is not doing all of the above she is then saying constantly asking about the next time, e.g. we were making rice crispy cakes earlier and she said "so can I get the dollies so wash them after". We don't even get chance to finish one thing before she is asking about the next.

It's exhausting, she does entertain herself and we do stuff together so I don't think it's because she is ignore/over stimulated (obv could be wrong)

I need to move out before she becomes a teenager

I'm having chocolate and wine tonight

Tidying the lounge is filling me with dread

7yo’s are hard. IME it’s the year they turn vicious.

Spent many years moaning to mum friends about why kids are always asking ‘what next’ when you’ve barely started the thing you’re doing.

Standard kid behaviour from all the kids I know.

DD is 12 now and working on her disdainful eye rolling entry for the next Olympics.

My son is 7, he has Aspergers, and needs constant direction. He’s also very weepy at the moment, and is railing against being 7 and the injustices of his life. Poor sod.

Anyway, I’m just consistently reminding him that he has stuff to do, stuff to eat, and unlimited access to Alexa for all his inane questions that stump me.

I’m sure we’ll survive the fortnight.

I'm dreading when she's older now and gets worse! 😂

This sounds exactly my ds 7. He is 8 in the summer and he's been like this for a good 8 to 10 months now. It's bloody exhausting. Nothing ever seems to be good enough or not to his liking.

Olympic eye rolling my 13yo had to leave the table because dh put pepper on his food which was "literally choking her to death" this evening.
My lovely 7 yo is still lovely in that he has NEVER had a tantrum, its a personality thing not parenting. His 9yo sister still has them. They do seem to go though a stroppy phase, about 7, come out of it briefly then back in 9/10 with a boundaries testing thing.
In my experience the pattern is:
7 year old are mood swings
9 year olds forget all manners, etiquette and rules they previously knew
12 year olds stink but don't care OR are obsessed with themselves, appearance, brands. No middle ground.
14 year olds mood swings again
You're welcome

Best response to i hate you is “that’s ok because I love you”. Dd is coming up 11. It gets far worse than you have it now. If you’re punishing for being told your child hates you you’re in for a ton of arguments. And tbh I don’t think your dd should be punished for expressing outbursts. She’s a little kid. She will get there. My dd no longer says this precisely because it has no effect. I’m sure if I reacted as you are she’d stilk be saying it. My dd is currently working on disdain and sarcasm. And loads of attitude to boot. I pick my battles.

Jesus that is so funny! Good job the poor dog doesn’t understand! 😂

@EmperorBallpitine nailed it for all the various age kids I know. Although my 12yo DD loves brands and makeup yet feels enraged by the injustice that showers need to actually be a regular repeatable activity! Now I’m eye rolling 🙄 DD uses the word ‘literally’ a lot too... she literally uses it wrong most of the time

These are making me laugh.

LittleDragon she got sent to her room for her attitude about something else, then from her open bedroom window shouted "I hate you" (with added screech)

I might try the "that's ok because I love you" see if that throws her off track

My eldest was exactly like this, you could be describing my dd. None of my other DC are like this so I don't think it's because of my parenting. Sorry to say she didn't grow out of it, but now that she is grown up we get on wonderfully. It probably helps that she lives on the other side of the world though. I love her to bits of course but she is not easy.

we have "literally" too

DD - I literally did not bring all those toys in here
Me - Good word, used in the wrong context

It's to do with the developmental stage they are at.

Around 7 is when (NT) children start to realise their is a world that exists outside them and move on from the egotistical phase.

Except they then try and cling on to the world revolving around them (because they now understand it doesn't) and it's becomes a whirlwind of internal contradiction!

Cheshire if you want to read about 7yo google Piagets theory if development.

Previously delightful DD is 9 and pushing all the boundaries at the moment. Such fun.

Oh my god yes. My dd is 7 in June and she’s been a right winge for the last few months. Everything is “boring” and “babyish” and “stuuuuupid”. She answers back constantly and when she can’t think of a decent come back just mutters “blah blah blah” at me. So frustrating.

Nanne Fwiw it will be a simple, dignified ceremony. She'll be buried in the garden with a plain cross and either a rose bush or a small tree to mark the spot. Then we'll buy a chihuahua (DDog is a lurcher).

My 5+6 year olds are similar!

What things do you let go on? (Anyone who would like advise)

I think I need to take a step back, try not to let it get to me. But then it's because she didn't used to be like. Mine's just 5. At the minute it's the moaning and the not listening to even the simple things (hoping the not listening stops sooner than the moaning)

But I think it's heightened to me cos she's the only company I've got

Oh god, our 8 year old DS became like this at age 7. Huge raging tantrums, lots of I hate yous etc. thankfully not so big on the whining- tends to go straight from pleasant to raging and skips the whining part. Still waiting for it to get better. Sorry

I teach seven year olds. Golly it’s hard work at times as they all have their moments that PP have described!

This is interesting, my previously humerous, charming, lovely laid back child has been fucking difficult throughout 7. I feel a bit better if it’s a Thing and that there’s a chance it’ll pass

Dd (8) has days where she’s whiny especially if she’s tired but tbf she’s mostly quite upbeat.

However she always wants to know what’s happening, what we’re doing, where we’re going etc etc etc. It’s exhausting.

However she has a preteen brother so tbh she seems positively perfect in comparison right now

I was just saying this about my 7 yo son. It is one extreme to the next - playing happily or moaning beyond reason. He is also very emotional and will have meltdowns over things - worse than when he was a toddler! The other thing he constantly does is ask for something and if we say no, he just keeps asking over and over. In the end I usually start shouting for him to stop!! He's exhausting at the moment.

I think the tantrums/moaning/meltdowns are harder to deal with as they get older anyway.