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Should diesel money be offered even when your driving that way anyway?

53 replies

williesandwonkas · 07/04/2019 13:57

I drive the same route home from work everyday.

I have a colleague that I drop off at the side of the road on my way.

It doesn't take any more time/diesel to leave her off but, I do have to wait on her sometimes to wait.

Other colleagues have asked if I am being offered money and I didn't think to ask for it. It would definitely be helpful and I know it saves her a lot of money for trains.

Should I ask for money or should they be offering? Or what do people think?

OP posts:
Chocolateisfab · 07/04/2019 14:58

Stop being a mug. You need a taxi meter or ask for a tenner.
She refuses, you can wave at her at the bus stop from now on.

viques · 07/04/2019 14:59

Of course she should pay. She is getting a free ride which comes with a host of other benefits like not having to queue at a busy, windy bus stop in the rain or in the searing heat. Assuming she got a seat when the bus eventually arrives She doesn't have to share seats with smelly, flatulant, man spreaders having boring conversations on their phones,

She is also not paying for road tax, your insurance, your mot, any maintenance costs, car depreciation etc etc.

shes got the bargain of the century.

Yabbers · 07/04/2019 14:59

You’re happy to do it for nothing, but only if she offers to pay?

That’s weird. You either want money or you don’t.

If I’m going that way anyway, and an not inconvenienced, I wouldn’t dream of asking for money and wouldn’t be bothered if they offered or not.

icelollycraving · 07/04/2019 14:59

How long is the journey? If it was 10 mins or less I wouldn’t ask.

viques · 07/04/2019 15:04

Of course she should pay. Apart from the free ride she is getting a heap of other benefits

She is not wasting her time waiting at a cold/hot/windy/snowy/rainy /delete as applicable bus stop for a bus which might or might not arrive.

She is not having to stand all the way home, or share a seat with a flatland, smelly man spreader.

She is not paying mot,road tax, depreciation, maintenance costs, insurance costs.

She is getting a huge bargain , and should recognise it with cold cash.

viques · 07/04/2019 15:05

Sorry, wrote one post, couldn't see it, re wrote it.........

MondeoFan · 07/04/2019 15:06

I was about to say no as you are going that way anyway but I thought about it and thought why should she get away with paying zero.
Even if she bought you some chocolates or flowers etc as a thank you.
But yes I think she should contribute and you shouldn't be ashamed to ask for it

BadPennyNoBiscuit · 07/04/2019 15:09

The law on taking money from passengers is that you mustn't make a profit. You are asking them to chip on for the cost, not running a taxi.

Mrscog · 07/04/2019 15:10

She’s very rude not to offer but equally if you’re driving that way anyway it’s a bit wierd to ask. I can’t believe she hasn’t at least acknowledged the favour with a gift or something!

Knitclubchatter · 07/04/2019 15:11

She’s taking advantage of you. Yes she needs to offer something.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 07/04/2019 15:15

Yeah but isn't there a law about taking money from passengers? Like fines and shit if you're caught?

You can't take money for hire or reward, meaning that you can't hire yourself and your car out as a formal service. You absolutely can give people you know a lift and ask them to cover the costs.

Dippypippy1980 · 07/04/2019 15:15

Many years ago I car shared to work. We all contributed. I would never use someone like that. She is taking advantage.

Isleepinahedgefund · 07/04/2019 15:18

I think she should pay too. Just because you're going anyway, it doesn't mean your journey is free, does it. If you have to pay, she should too.

Bookworm4 · 07/04/2019 15:20

She most definitely is a CF, you are saving her £960 per annum on fares plus the extra time needed for public transport commuting plus you wait for her; a bus certainly wouldn't wait!

gamerchick · 07/04/2019 15:22

You can't take money for hire or reward, meaning that you can't hire yourself and your car out as a formal service. You absolutely can give people you know a lift and ask them to cover the costs

Mint, thankyou. Grin

Chocolateisfab · 07/04/2019 15:24

Maybe Cfuckery should also be a crime..

tass1960 · 07/04/2019 15:25

I probably wouldn't take money but I definitely would not wait for her.

tass1960 · 07/04/2019 15:27

Assuming it is a short journey. If it is isn't then why should she be the only one to save.

Boysey45 · 07/04/2019 15:28

She needs to pay half the petrol money it costs you. As shes not forthcoming text her now and tell her how much she needs to pay from tomorrow onwards.

prettybird · 07/04/2019 15:34

If you're not bothered about payment as you're not going out your way, she should at least be offering to pay or thanking you in some other way.

But above all, you shouldn't be waiting for her. Tell her you are leaving at "x" time (or now). She's either ready or not, but you're leaving then.

If she contributes, then you can be more flexible, but at the moment, it is only an added inconvenience for you.

Boysey45 · 07/04/2019 15:37

I'd say its x amount per day and you have to be there, I cant wait for you. If your not ready then you need to make alternative plans.

BrokenWing · 07/04/2019 15:46

There are online calculators that help work out how much you should pay if you carshare and you don't have a car to reciprocate.

She is being a CF letting you taxi her about without offering. Does she at least give you a regular gift/thank you or does she just expect it all for free?

Starlight456 · 07/04/2019 16:19

Yes so cf saves time money and doesn’t have to be there on time .

Op waits around saves nothing .

Some none drivers I think seriously have no idea how much card cost to run

BlueMerchant · 07/04/2019 16:30

She's a CF.
She should be offering you at the v.least a tenner or even a small gift every now and again to show her appreciation.
I'd make something up and say you won't be going her way everyday now so she'll have to make alternate arrangements as she can't rely on you.

Babyfoal · 07/04/2019 17:18

I did this for five years and was never offered a penny petrol money. It pissed me right off. I never said anything.

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