to think that just because i'm on baby number three people shouldn't automatically assume that i know what i'm doing

[nellie75]

I've recently had me third dc and feel that i'm being left to get on with it because i must know what i'm doing, i have a five year gap between each of my children and you do forget, i'm as nervy this time as i was with my first, actually i think i'm worse because of being older

aww bless u nellie i was the same with my 2nd by the time he came out i conviniently just forgot the 1st 6 months of my ds1's life!! i was like a headless duck after a week but u soon pick it up again!

I know but she's 19 weeks now and i'm getting worse, weaning - god i've forgotten the lot

YA Not BU nellie, and for those of us with just one child several years ago, it's enlightening and quite comforting! I've always assumed you 3 dc people know everything in a uber mom kind of way. Good to know you're normal!

I suspect you know more than you realise though.

Oh i'm definately normal, lol

Not at all ~ there's only 19 months between my kids and lots of advice had changed in that time!!!

I wouldn't worry - they keep changing the rules anyway. Just go with the flow and hope it all works out OK. It's bound to.

Do you like the lax attitude?

YANBU at ALL - I've just recently had DS3 (3rd DC) and even though there's only 3yrs between each of my children it's still a steep learning curve again...especially as (as is perfectly normal) all babies are entirely different and have different needs and requirements.

I've been and played for my first service back at church again tonight - left all 3 DS's with the daughter of a trusted friend (daughter is also a good friend of ours too). However she's only 19 and has never looked after a baby so young - although I trusted her 110% and knew that she'd send me a text (had my phone on silent next to me ) if she was really unsure what to do I had butterflies all the way through the service.......never felt like that with the older DS's when they were little.

Needless to say she coped briliantly and even managed to get DS3 to settle to sleep in his carrycot (which can be a mean feat late evening!).

YANBU.i remember having to ask the MW how to bath ds2(he was my 3rd child after a 4.5 years gap)in the hospital,and it didnt get much easier as everything had changed re weaning and that.i still have no idea what im doing with him,and he's 4 this month.he's a 'typical' lad and so different from ds1.hes starting school in september yet he still seems like a baby to me.

i'm sure theres a 'third child syndrome' nobody's discovered yet

Try to go with the flow and keep all children happy, don't have a huge problem with that its things like, bath time and weaning and not remembering when they should be trying to roll over, sit up etc.

bollox to it thats what i say.. they'll do it when they do it so dont feel pressured to worry about it!

hi i am currently expecting number 4 i have ds 9 dd 6 and dd 1 but forget everything from 1 preg to another some of my friends are like cant you remember and i am like nooooooo each preg is different and i feel as scared with this one a the last three LOL