Non molestation order. I need help.

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I'm applying for a non molestation order against my ex partner. I don't have the money for help from a solicitor as I'm on SMP. He's been psychologically abusive to me and I can't cope with it anymore.

Has anyone done this before? Can anyone advise? I need to do it ASAP as he scares me and I am sick of him contacting me.

Sorry I took a while to reply

That sounds awful and I can certainly understand why you left him. Certainly the police would be able to advise you whether it would be enough for a non-mol. I'm not sure it evidences that your children wouldn't be safe with him though - was he abusive to them?

Physically they would be safe, but witnessing aggressive and angry behaviour to the point that they're scared is emotionally not good for children. His oldest is very scared of him. I'm not trying to stop access though it just needs to be in a supervised fashion.

OP, a non mol is for you and not he children. what you are looking for is something else (prohibited steps order), a different for and a court fee (215 if I remember correctly). You will have cafcass and probably social services involved. the non molestation order was a walk in the park compared to the process I had to go through for the prohibited steps order.

Off of the examples you cited, you would not be granted a non molestation order for yourself. but a prohibited steps order would protect your children - to a degree. the court will be looking to cafacss and the social workers to talk to your dc (sorry, I think yours might still be a baby?). if they say they want to see their dad, that is what will happen. it was a process that mentally strained me for very little ultimate benefit to anyone. it can be costly as they could ask social services to prepare a document that you might be liable to pay for.

call the CAB and see if one of their offices provides an appointment with a family solicitor. I did this and her advice was invaluable.